Lucky555 Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Well I feel like my bf of going on 7 months needs a wake up call..this relationship is goin no where that I can see any time soon. Lately I have been frustrated and have felt like he is being selfish. Just tonight I'm talking with him via online and he stops messaging me without any notice. I have a suspicion that he might have visited an ex today..Im not sure but I was basically seeing what he did today and no reply. I'm rather upset at the fact he is ignoring me and will give me an excuse tomorrow. I'm already angry that he didnt make any time this week to see me! Its just I have been patient seeing him only once a week. For the past month I have seen him three times! I told him last week when I was about to end things that we need to plan a date and our times. Then boom nothing this week. He has not expressed emotion like I said before. Tonight he messages me late and talks about sex. Really?? I'm not even in the mood and while I was with him that past couple of times I just felt used. Its like he thinks everything is fine and I thought last week when we talked things would change but they have not. 7 months and I dont new family or friends is really driving me nuts too. Every boyfriend I have had has introduced me! Especially to family it just makes me think he isn't that serious. I know something is wrong and I gave him a chance.but I just feel annoyed having this feeling of being in a relationship but being single most of the time. I think mainly is the lack of emotion. I know he said something about needing a weekend not getting together and I did say yes. However I want to see if this week he implements what I have asked. So I want to give him a chance to initiate a date...I asked him to do (free) things plenty of times so it can't be too hard. I hope this man follows through instead of inviting me over for just sex. Or I'm gone. I have given him plenty of time to grow with me but it seems pointless to continue if a man can make an effort. Secondly if he did hang out with his ex I am gone also because I already stated how I felt and he would be disrespecting my feelings. Otherwise it's over because it just means he doesn't care enough. Any thoughts on my plan for this week? I just need to end it if he can't step it up. I don't need to be with someone who doesn't care about me when I want a future with someone too
dangerstranger Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Don't wait for him to step up, just step down yourself instead of "waiting" for him to be something he's not. I know it seems easier said than done when you like someone, but he's not giving you anything. How long are you willing to put up with that?
Author Lucky555 Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 Don't wait for him to step up, just step down yourself instead of "waiting" for him to be something he's not. I know it seems easier said than done when you like someone, but he's not giving you anything. How long are you willing to put up with that? Ya I agree. I know I'm giving him a chance right now to make it right. I think this past weekend he took it and did what he needed to do. Now if he took it to see an ex Im finished. The fact he just stopped talking after I asked about his day really has me even more suspicious sinc wi already had a hunch. When he talked about sex I just briefly commented but didn't make any advances. I'm seeing if he can be that man I met that did take me out and did make an effort. I told him my issues last weekend. But I know you are right step down if he can't be the man. It's just he once was that guy when I met him! But I figure after this long together if he doesn't want a relationship then he wont take any action to fix the problems. He is not being set up here. I already asked and I stated what I needed..its what our relationship needs too. Sex and staying in is killing chemistry because we are not doing meaningful things together to develop a deeper bond of friendship and trust. Intimacy is great but I need the whole deal :/
utterer of lies Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 So I'm getting closer to ending it Doesn't sound like it. Take responsibility for your own live, or don't complain if you're the victim.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 Well im letting the guy know now. Its funny what you say "take responsibly of your own life". This mornin I woke up and said I don't need to this..I'm not going to wait for things to change I will tell him what I think and let the chips fall where they may. I think I do have some fear in breaking up but it's just because I'm only used to him and I really need to consider my life and needs. This man will either meet me half way if he cares or he wont and was using me all along. After almost 7 months and nothing moving forward it's kinda ridiculous
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