mogul Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 I'm curious what others that date a lot are doing for first dates? Going on 2-3 nice dinner dates a week and drinks after is starting to get ridic. I'm at a point where I am not really looking for anything serious anymore, other than just casual dating so I'm a bit indifferent. Is there anything to do on a first date other than dinner and drinks without looking cheap? Any unique, fun or adventurous ideas would be much appreciated. Thanks. *also* feel free to share some interesting first dates you've had that were unconventional or what you did. Even if it was just dinner, what type of cuisine .. etc
nothappyjan Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 These days most guys who ask me out just say coffee or just drinks for the first meet. If we click then they suggest dinner or another activity. The dates i've been on recently include a walk along a river and then a coffee, mini golf (which was lots of fun) I've had a guy suggest the zoo or aquarium or going to look around the city and see a museum. I actually like the different dates as dinner can be full on for the first couple of meetings.
Author mogul Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 So what is your question?:confused: Are you illiterate? "What is a typical first date for you?"
Author mogul Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 Any ideas at all? Or is dinner and drinks really the norm...? Thanks.
Cee Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Whatever you like to do normally makes a good first date. Countless options such as museums, walks, fairs, go karts, laser tag, surfing lesson, thrift shopping, mini golf, bowling, wine tasting. The reason dinner is so popular is people like to talk on a first date, but you can do whatever you want. None of my first dates have been special. The real fun happens later.
carhill Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Lunch at an inexpensive eatery Bicycle ride Walk in the park Trip through the zoo I don't normally invite women I don't know on dinner dates. I like 'get to know' to happen during daylight hours.
Lucky_One Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Brunch. Meet at Subways or Quizo's, and then take your respective bag to the park or waterfront to eat. Kayaking or canoeing. Walk through a bird trail. Free music concert in the park in the summer. Meet a midnight and find a place for a meteor shower. I am out of the dating circle now, but I still have a nice blanket in my trunk that I bought especially for impromptu picnics. It is has a nylon backing and folds up with handles. Perfect for lunch, stargazing, or concerts in the grass.
Author mogul Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 For the women, would you think a guy is cheap or be offended if the first date was not dinner?
Saxis Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Last two first dates were dinner and bowling. If it really doesn't work out, at least I get my practice in for league...
lolo1234 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I went bowling with my last "first date." It was a blast. Also if you're near water jetskiing or kayaking are fun. Or how about catching some live music?
Star Gazer Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 For the women, would you think a guy is cheap or be offended if the first date was not dinner? If he doesn't at least want to meet for drinks, I assume he's not interested enough.
good_vibes Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I actually just like to meet for something brief like coffee or something, for me, I'm just getting back into the dating game and that takes the pressure off. I also like to eat healthy so I prefer not going out to eat that much. One guy kept asking me to dinner, that didn't go past the 3rd date as it got boring - it wasn't just that though, he wasn't much more exciting either. I like outdoors activities but sometimes it's hard to talk when you are doing something like that. I met up with a guy at a park once and we ended up talking for hours and he played some stuff for me on his guitar. I know, I know that sounds mega-cheesy, but it worked, at least for me
Lucky_One Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 For the women, would you think a guy is cheap or be offended if the first date was not dinner? No. And I am out of my 20's, and the men in my dating pool tend to be better financially established than younger men (very general, of course). I am always pretty cognizant that people's finances might not be very liquid right now, and I tend towards conservatism when I order.
GivenUp0083 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Depends on how well I know you. If I know you and have at least met you before, then I'll take you to a comedy show and drinks, maybe a fun event during the day, maybe a boat tour, go for a walk in the park, something that is fun but allows you to talk and get to know each other. If it's an online date (which I'm done with, so stupid if you're a guy) then I wouldn't waste that much time and money on them. I'd meet at a quiet bar, buy them a drink, sit at a table, and talk. If you connect and can have fun just talking, keep buying drinks, talk for hours. If she's a loser, doesn't look like her pictures, or socially inept, then you only have to buy her one drink, talk for 20-30 min to be respectful, then thank her for meeting up with you but you have to work tomorrow and you have to get going. Walk her out of the bar, get her a cab, and send her off.
fishtaco Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Usually a coffee date would be good. You'll buy her a cup of coffee. Then you sit and chat. You learn a lot about a person from chatting. More productive and cheaper than say a movie, where you just sit there and pay attention to the movie instead of each other. During the summer you can go to an ice cream place instead. If she's the active type you can meet at the park and do some outdoorsy stuff. Or if you have to you can always take her to hole-in-the-wall type restaurants. They're usually cheap and tasty, but you have to do your homework and know your way around town. And some women actually enjoy that more. Don't do the wine and dine until later. You have to make sure she's not using you for free meals first.
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