highlibidolady Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 (edited) I met a guy online about 6 months ago and we started chatting once. At the time I was dating someone else so then I never chatted to him again anymore. Then when I broke up with this other guy I resumed chatting online again... Over the past few months this guy has helped me a lot and I think of him as a good friend. We live about 3 hours apart from each other. We have met up twice (he never touched me and never crossed the line but we talked like good friends and I had such a strong attraction for him) and I can't stop thinking about him. We keep in contact regularly. We talk about deep and meaningful things... Only problem is that he has a girlfriend (that he'd been dating only a few weeks before we first started chatting and at the beginning I never knew he had one). I can't stop thinking about him... I know it's pointless bc he is already taken AND it'd be a somewhat LDR. When I try to date other men I can't help but comparing everyone to him at the back of my mind and nobody else can compare. He writes me often and long emails. He seems super interested in every aspect of my life (whatever I choose to share). I'm confused as to whether he likes me or not (in a romantic way more than a friend).. and what exactly does he want or think of me? I know I should forget about him and move on but should I continue keeping in contact and writing? It's really hard for me to forget as I said before... noone else I've dated can even match up to him with all his qualities. Edited June 4, 2011 by highlibidolady
Author highlibidolady Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 Could someone give me advice please? What does he want from me when he flatters the hell out of me constantly, acts like a really really good friend, contacts me often....
neowulf Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Could someone give me advice please? What does he want from me when he flatters the hell out of me constantly, acts like a really really good friend, contacts me often.... You could always try asking him how he feels and just lay it out on the table? That or let it go. If he were keen on you, he'd be dating you. He's dating someone else. That should tell you all you need to know. The fact that he's still maintaining this connection to you could either mean he's actually trying to be your friend (which does happen), or he's just keeping his options open, perhaps to keep you as a thing on the side (which also happens). As for comparing him to everyone else, I suspect this is just a classic case of wanting what we can't have. He's the "impossible" relationship, he's off the market, he lives 3 hours away.. it's just so *hopelessly romantic*. My advise, either lay your feelings out and see what happens, or move on. The world is a big place.
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