wilsonx Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 So... I went out to dinner last night with a friend and he said why dont you and your girlfriend work on your problems together and grow instead of just giving up. He was correct. We both just gave up after an argument instead of sitting down and talking about it. So I called her just now and she said you said you wanted space too. Which is true. I was angry that she said she broke up with me and doesnt care to try anymore. But I told her that I know we both still have feelings for each other and if we wait months, it will probably go away. We talked some more and we both agreed that we should hang out after a couple days space... Tues night and see how it goes
victoriaaa Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 if you want to make a go of things its definitely worth it. i would love to have a chance like you have. good luck
Kodo Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I sincerely wish you the best Wilson. Take it slow. Keep distance between you so that you can understand what went wrong and allow BOTH of you to improve. God I hope it works for you.
Author wilsonx Posted June 4, 2011 Author Posted June 4, 2011 So I have actually been debating this all day to the point where my head hurts.... its actually hanging out with her on Tues a bad idea?
TaraMaiden Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 Why not wait until Tuesday to definitely find out one way or the other? keep an open mind, and let things unfold. You'll know at the end of the evening, whether hanging out was a bad idea, or not.
Author wilsonx Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 I know its a bad idea. Im a complete train wreck right now. I flip flop every day at least 200 times a day. If we were try to even hang out our relationship would be so fragile that we would have to try extremely hard not to do anything to fight. We had an almost fight free relationship. That last week that she lived here with me after she broke up was 6 days of fighting and unreleased anger towards each other. Right now its not a good idea. We both really want to hang out and see what happens but as the poster above stated, we are both broken. We both need our space Thats the best advice. I know what has to be done. I work out twice a day, talk to at least 3 friends every day, Im working on finding a new job that we did not work together at, but I cant escape the NC thing. I always find a reason to contact her and its annoying and I want to stop. Im not healing at all yet and my friends have commented that I completely zone out while either talking or listening as I am looking through them
Author wilsonx Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 plus ive been thinking about it and reading homebrews posts... shes wanting to date the guy thats 15 years older then her... she made a comment 3 nights ago how she cant get over how old he is
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