AmericanHoney Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I was talking to someone online and we exchanged numbers but we only text and the last guy I dated only used text. Do people even talk anymore or has texting taken over?? I am apart of the digital age but I find a simple phone call more interesting than texting because with texting you can never read that person.
vsmini Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I won't accept a text/Facebook based relationship. I'm 28. IM/Email came around when I was about 13 and texting started around 19. So I remember a time before it. I think texting is a loophole to poor communication - people honestly think that texting is appropriate for serious discussions and then wonder why they're so frustrated with the poor communication in their relationship. I'm interested to see how relationships will evolve in the next 15-20 years with the kids now raised on all this technology.
Cloud Logic Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 Texting is quicker, I think, which makes it a more common way of communicating with someone. In a relationship, though, I think that calling should be more common, especially in the beginning. Taking the time to actually talk to someone over the phone shows a little bit of character. Just express your feelings to this guy that you would like to have a chat instead of texting so much.
TheLawmaker Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I don't text. If a girl wanted to text, I'd have to end the relationship.
somedude81 Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 My phone plan isn't the greatest. Pay as you go, 1st phone call I make in the day costs me $1. Then 10 cents a minute. I get 200 texts for $5. So I find myself texting much more since it's just cheaper for me. But I'm finding that it's hard to make plans via text. It's too easy for a person to just say that they are busy and it's hard to get a read on them. I really should stick to phone calls.
musemaj11 Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 Talking over the phone is stupider than texting. For me either we talk face to face or we can text each other.
OliveOyl Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 Talking over the phone is stupider than texting. Why do you think that way? To be honest, I don't really like talking on the phone. But trying to conduct a "conversation" over text seems painful. I don't mind sending a few asynchronous texts here and there, but texting is not a main method of communication for me. Instead of texting, I prefer IM (chat). With IM the interaction is direct and I have full access to a real keyboard
zengirl Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I text a lot more than I talk these days. The most recent ex and I almost never talked and always texted and then really talked face-to-face only. The new BF always calls (like every day), which is a little weird for me, but I kind of like it. I see him less than I saw the ex (because I'm more determined to keep my own social circle going strong than I was before), so it's a nice way to keep things going. Texting is great for logistics though. I'm weird (for a girl) in that I tend not to like talking on the phone---at least not long conversations, so I've had plenty of relationships which were mostly texting more so than phoning.
good_vibes Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I do not like texting as far as dating is concerned, but I find a lot of younger guys seem to do it. I feel like it is weak, like if they ask a girl out and she says No it's easier to handle via text than on the phone. I gave a guy my number a couple weeks ago, and he sent me a text. I did not reply. He emailed and asked if I received the text, and said he does it that way to make sure a girl is interested (if I were not interested, why would I have given him my number?) I replied and said to just call me. He replied and said if I texted this would all be a lot easier (WHAT??) I have not contacted him back. I think we all need to find someone who communicates in a way that is compatible to what we want. I don't think you can get to know someone over text messaging.
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Cee Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I have come to believe that it is easier to fake interest via text than a phone call. So phone calls are a good place to start a dating relationship. And bring in texting later for quick communication. My only complaint about the phone is it sucks with these dropped calls. So often, I am talking to my BF and my phone cuts off. I hate that so much.
Saxis Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I text a lot more than talking also. Phone calls are subject to busy lives and finding time to have a conversation. Through texting, it's easy to keep it light and flirty, and you can respond at your convenience. Current person I'm dating, we live a couple hours apart, but we're both on the computer/cells during the day. We seem to be keeping in contact nearly every day this way. If we didn't, yeah, I'd probably be calling her. Seems like calling after we've been messaging most of the day would be too much. When I like someone though, I like staying in touch with them. It's pretty much a sure way to know if I'm interested...
EasyHeart Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I have come to believe that it is easier to fake interest via text than a phone call.This is what I hear from men in real life. Talking on the phone requires a significant time commitment, plus they have to fake sounding interested. Texting allows them to communicate with several women at the same time with little time commitment.
zengirl Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I have come to believe that it is easier to fake interest via text than a phone call. So phone calls are a good place to start a dating relationship. And bring in texting later for quick communication. See, I don't think I ever have enough interest early on to talk on the phone, so I'm the opposite. Phone calls are a great way to kill any interest I might develop in a guy (but that's 'cause I hate talking on the phone anyway and it's awkward if I don't know the person well and/or really dig him). I'd rather text first, go on some dates, and not work in phone calls till we're both pretty serious. Texting is comfortable when your interest is lower, I'd agree on that, but that's how interest generally starts out unless you know the person well and/or are one of those people who fall fast.
Arabella Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 people honestly think that texting is appropriate for serious discussions and then wonder why they're so frustrated with the poor communication in their relationship. I was going to post something on this thread and then I read this. That pretty much sums it up... I hate texting. I mean, it is convenient to fire off a text to my boyfriend to let him know something non-urgent, but for anything that actually requires a response it's cumbersome, slow and way too prone to miscommunication!
NoReallyThatHappened Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I'm always afraid I'm going to be misunderstood via text. I text my friends all the time, but they know me really well. I've seen a lot of relationship drama built around text messaging that seems really unnecessary to me.
EyeAlone Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 If I send a text message to my boyfriend, 95% of the time it's regarding plans and it's very short. It's usually something like "Be there in 15 minutes" or "Got the tickets." Anything else is reserved for a phone call or face-to-face. I'm a big believer that text messages and even emails create false intimacy especially in the early getting-to-know-eachother stages in a relationship. BTDT.
Shaun-Dro Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I won't accept a text/Facebook based relationship. I'm 28. IM/Email came around when I was about 13 and texting started around 19. So I remember a time before it. I think texting is a loophole to poor communication - people honestly think that texting is appropriate for serious discussions and then wonder why they're so frustrated with the poor communication in their relationship. I'm interested to see how relationships will evolve in the next 15-20 years with the kids now raised on all this technology. They'll be no relationships! I was out earlier with a friend; we just went up the street to get something to eat but he approached a young girl about 18 or 19 and she immediately said "Text me tonight" after they only talked for about 5 minutes in person, so there goes our future .
ascendotum Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 I think texting is a loophole to poor communication - people honestly think that texting is appropriate for serious discussions and then wonder why they're so frustrated with the poor communication in their relationship. I'm interested to see how relationships will evolve in the next 15-20 years with the kids now raised on all this technology. Totally agree with this, but I'm Gen X and so grew up before txting. I am amazed at some of the scenarios I see here on LS and also with younger single people I know who initiate, communicate and breakup via txt. I am certain quite a number of the dating dilemmas I see here would be easily resolved if people picked up the phone more or talk to the perosn face to face, instead of trying to intepret the others feelings or true intentions based on a handful of 160 char limit communications.
alexlakeman Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 It's so much easier to text.. Jump on the bandwagon or you will miss a lot of good men ... I am not saying text replaces phone calls, but it's easier.
Silivren Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 I like to text in the early stages of a relationship... honestly, when I am just starting to like someone and in the crush phase, I can be a little awkard... What I like about texting is I can think about my response before I send in - instead of being on the phone, saying something stupid and thereby making a jackass of myself (which I am VERY good at doing... insert foot a into mouth b)
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 I don't have a problem with texting my only gripe is it gets lost in translation persay when you text. When I was dating my last guy we texted all the time but so many things got lost in translation and I never knew how to read him. Eventually things got so lost in translation he finally stopped bothering. I think maybe if I had talked to my last guy actually talked to him on the phone rather than text maybe things would of made more sense but instead we texted and things got complicated and confusing real quick.
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