coolheadal Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I feel trapped now! Today the door bell rings and it was the postman. I am not accepting any certified letter for her. She hasn't paid the Mortgage and won't do it. That's on her. I have my own house in my name this one was on her anyway. I had the townhouse up here but she didn't like it so we got this house that she really wanted so badly. A house she won't take care of! She never unpacked the over 300 boxes brought here from the townhouse and the only one who did was her parents! They were here a couple of times and I had to get them out and one day I lost it and had paid the price. She told me I had stepped over the line she was P-O! Oh well they were coming over all the time and doing what they had wanted which was rude. So after 4-5 years here now she's ready to end everything. So now that out of the way. She told me when you get me my B-day present also tap on this too. I said what B-Day present. You don't want to stay married to me and you still want a gift for a Wife would get. I said you be lucky if you got a Friend Card because that's what you said you wanted to be now! I can't believe her and she expect things like that. I am here always and she's gone out to Red Lobster and such and spending money that should be for the Mortgage and not paying it. I also remember her saying once there was a Judgement Lean on the House. I don't know what happen to that, as again was in her name. Boy what a mess she has to deal with. When I got everything I going to take and sell off my kitchen stuff stove, refrig, dishwasher and might even do the dryer too. I would like to take my HE washing machine with me cost so much why leave or sell it. I have second car to sell also. She has to make payments on $40,000 SUV and if she misses a payment they'll send out the Repo Man or Women to take it away from her. I am also dropping car insurance on that for the Fall season she's covered until then. Watch how expensive that's going to be now. She'll have $1,000 rent, Car payments over $500 bucks, Car insurance over $500 bucks and life won't be so fun without me around. But in all I think it's time for me to leave as I don't see any future with her and I don't want to be around her family again! I can't stand them and their rude behavior. As for us we still sleep in the same KING size been in CA-KING Frame so the mattress moves around or you feet drop off or your head falls down. It's along story that one. I told her you can keep the Master Bed Room Set a set she hasn't dusted off in 4-5 years the mirror is full of dust. I use to clean it and gave up. She has clothes all over the room you can barely walk around it. Who ever gets her after me is going to be in for a big surprise. You have to get Ready-Maid Service to clean up after her.
Surfer203 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 That sounds like quite a nightmare. I am confused as to why you guys are still living together if you are both obviously done? How long has this been going on? Parts of her remind me of my own wife. Some sort of bizarre sense of entitlement. Very upsetting. Good luck, let us know what happens next.
Author coolheadal Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 Nightmare is just half of it. Friday evening I get a call from her asking me if I want to go to the movies. This is odd she's calling from her Mothers again she doesn't show-up here for dinner. I have completely written her off that dinner list if you know what I mean. She wanted to see the Hangover II movie. I really don't care for it. But that had started around 9:30pm. I told here I should be ready. But later on to make sure she didn't try to go out afterwards, I had my own game plan. So near that time I get a call from her saying I need you to pump gas into my car. I told her why don't you do it. She said I don't want too. Don't get me started with this stuff she tries to pull this when she doesn't want to spend her own money for a vehicle that uses a lot of gas. I told her there was a change of plans so the movie will be X Men First Class. So that started additional 30 mins. She was fine with it. Soon she came home after that. And told me after I had to ask here did she buy the gas and fill up her tank herself. Which she did. Don't know why she has to be such a head case with me. We get to the movies but I am man so I pay to get in at the cost of $10.75 a pop for Adult and if it was a 3D movie it would be $15. Way to much to see a movie today. Anyway I pay the later and turn around and the Wife was gone. What she should have said hey I going to get some popcorn no the rude wife just leaves. I hate that. I have to go and tell her off in a public place for what she did. But in her mind it's "whatever". Since I had pay to get us in it was only fair she was going to pop for the popcorn and drink. Her thing is to buy one drink and share. She's still doing what her Mother had did when she was a kid. Why change now. She buys one huge tub of Popcorn, since she was paying I had added some thing to that list. The experience in the Theater wasn't the same I felt odd at times. I know deep down I would like things to change and have her be the Wife I had wanted but it's not happening like that. We did have a good time watching the movie. She was nice to me though. Sometimes too nice. After the movie was over it was 12:30a and she still wanted to go out. Can you believe that! I got her to stay with me and wife another movie or TV. Later in the night she does that thing in bed. But frankly you have me but she has to do it her way. There is something different about her with me in the bed and not I see she tells me "she love me" and holds me in her arms but yet when it comes to romance or body contact role play she doesn't want to do it with me. Now it's even worst. She'll tell me to get off her and then tell me a story why or it never get's told like she doesn't want to be bothered. She tells me there isn't anyone else as if there was she would have been gone sooner. So what the heck she's doing? The next day we had to get up since she wanted to get that Apart where one of the dogs can live with her. No matter what she's still wants to live on her own. But what us? I shouldn't even bother with her but this is own relationship at best. At 11am we go and meet with the Leasing Agent she was nice but later on I see she's lazy and don't like to do her own laundry like my Wife is they depend on their Mother's to do it. Well the only reason why I had gone is to see if she was really serious about this how it was going to work. She expects me to come back to here to visit her. I told her no way you can come and visit with me. But I see the look in her eyes and it's like something shady is going on. You have house already but you don't want it anymore all that money gone into this house and she wants to go back to apartment which cost more than on her own to pay. She fills out the applications for the new place and gives the girl $200 bucks to hold a it for her. Not even 20 mins at the sandwich shop she gets a text saying she didn't get approved for Credit. But she could have a second chance to get the place if she puts up $3,400 buck. Crazy! Funny she acts like everything is normal but it really isn't. She get her wedding rings clean. She wears everything I got her jewelery wise. Soon after that she had taken me home that was around 2:30pm before she left to go take out her nephews she told me she won't be own tonight. There she goes again I say. It's 7:50am the next morning so where the heck can she be? I still think in my gut there is someone else. She just won't tell me. The way she acts in the bed and otherwise. A friend of mine told me I should ask her to keep me on her health insurance plan. I frankly wanted to get her off my car insurance. When I had told her she was going to have to take that over she had lost it. Starting saying fine your off my health insurance plan. Your going to be nasty over this situation. That's all she saids to day going to be nasty or nice in this situation. But how can you be nice the way things are going. Nothing good coming from it except she's getting what she wants.
Mz. Pixie Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 You ramble a bit in your post so it's a bit hard for me to follow. Is anything that she is "responsible for" in your name at all? Because if so-regardless of what you have verbally agreed upon you can be sued too. Is this house in your name? You had sex with her after all of this? Bad move. I think you need to run to the nearest divorce attorney and get this taken care of now. Just reading this makes me want to cringe. Get back to your townhouse and chalk this up to a bad mistake.
Author coolheadal Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 You ramble a bit in your post so it's a bit hard for me to follow. Is anything that she is "responsible for" in your name at all? Because if so-regardless of what you have verbally agreed upon you can be sued too. Is this house in your name? You had sex with her after all of this? Bad move. I think you need to run to the nearest divorce attorney and get this taken care of now. Just reading this makes me want to cringe. Get back to your townhouse and chalk this up to a bad mistake. No nothing like that happen so it would be considered no bad move. She's the one trying to make contact. It's bad enough. The house is in her name. My friends lawyer friend told him I have no say in this house even though I had paid out over 48,000 buck for the Mortgage which never seems to go down. Townhouse is gone it's been 4 years that was in my name as everything was. Today only 1 bill is in my name and she caused them to turn off the power. As she wanted to take care of the bills as she wasn't doing it. Kept on saying whatever. I had to take charge of the affairs here. It's a shame I can't get anything back from this house. I own my own home other than this one she owns and has mess up the Mortgage with the Bank. But it's not here far way like a 2 day drive. Still that's where I had wanted her and me to grow and raise kids. But she didn't like good clean good living. Oh well I was going down there to check on things so now I'll be going and not coming back. Her way was I go down and come back up. Never going to happen. That would be nuts for me to do that. She doesn't want to get lawyers involved. Shoot they may give me everything but I don't want this house. the Mortgage is so high it's not worth it. Right now she's taking the Master bedroom stuff and the living room stuff. I am selling the kitchen stuff is what I had pay for and taking the dinning room, SOHO and gym stuff I got also the new Washer is going. She doesn't even wash her clothes. I did forget to mention after all of that what happen she had the gall to talk about what type of Birthday gift I was suppose to get her. Never going to happen. My gift is that I am leaving you to give you your space! Today around 2:30pm (12 hours later) she comes home. I don't think I can go through another week of this madness with here. Now she's telling me she can say a bunch of money if I take both dogs with me. Again she doesn't want to take care of not even one dog. So then she would be more free. Not having it! She needs to keep her agreements. But this wishy-washy mentality is dangerous.
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