GivenUp0083 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I told you guys my ex hit me up on gchat 2 days ago to make "small talk" with me, and it prompted me to give her a call that night. I was basically going to be straight forward and ask her why she was making small chat with me after a month of no contact since our break up. If she didn't have anything legitimate to say or expressed interest in being friends, I was all prepared to explain to her that I don't want to be friends because she broke my heart and I need to move on with my life and I can't do that while being friends with her. Well, she didn't answer. She emailed me late that night around midnight saying she missed my call but just noticed and it was too late to call back. Told me to give her a call sometime soon. She hit me up on gchat again the next day, and I said I didn't want to talk over gchat or text or email, and I said I'd call her that night. I didn't call her. I worked out for 2 hours after work and a friend hit me up to go get dinner/drinks at a local pub and we hung out with random chicks and watched the NBA Finals instead. I don't think I am going to call her at this point. The moment has passed. I called out of frustration and wanting to know her intentions but now I think I don't care. If she wanted to get back or express regret she can just come out and say it. I'm not puting myself on the line emotionally for her to shoot me down again only because I think or hope she might tell me something I want to hear. I took enough of her bull****, broke my back doing things for her and showed her everything that I am and as great of a man I can be....she passed on me. If she calls me or contacts me I'll just ignore her or tell her to leave me alone. I realize this might just be a high point and a low point could be on the horizon (again), but right now I feel ready to move on and forget her. She had a month window to make my day and contact me or reconsile and now that feeling seems to have passed from me and I'm annoyed with her and don't want anything to do with her. I'm a great guy, I am loyal, caring, reliable, responsible, and I've lost 20 lbs in a month!! so soon I'll be ultra sexy I hope this feeling lasts for good, I really would be disappointed in myself if I succumbed to missing her and feeling bad about her again.
usabup Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I told you guys my ex hit me up on gchat 2 days ago to make "small talk" with me, and it prompted me to give her a call that night. I was basically going to be straight forward and ask her why she was making small chat with me after a month of no contact since our break up. If she didn't have anything legitimate to say or expressed interest in being friends, I was all prepared to explain to her that I don't want to be friends because she broke my heart and I need to move on with my life and I can't do that while being friends with her. Well, she didn't answer. She emailed me late that night around midnight saying she missed my call but just noticed and it was too late to call back. Told me to give her a call sometime soon. She hit me up on gchat again the next day, and I said I didn't want to talk over gchat or text or email, and I said I'd call her that night. I didn't call her. I worked out for 2 hours after work and a friend hit me up to go get dinner/drinks at a local pub and we hung out with random chicks and watched the NBA Finals instead. I don't think I am going to call her at this point. The moment has passed. I called out of frustration and wanting to know her intentions but now I think I don't care. If she wanted to get back or express regret she can just come out and say it. I'm not puting myself on the line emotionally for her to shoot me down again only because I think or hope she might tell me something I want to hear. I took enough of her bull****, broke my back doing things for her and showed her everything that I am and as great of a man I can be....she passed on me. If she calls me or contacts me I'll just ignore her or tell her to leave me alone. I realize this might just be a high point and a low point could be on the horizon (again), but right now I feel ready to move on and forget her. She had a month window to make my day and contact me or reconsile and now that feeling seems to have passed from me and I'm annoyed with her and don't want anything to do with her. I'm a great guy, I am loyal, caring, reliable, responsible, and I've lost 20 lbs in a month!! so soon I'll be ultra sexy I hope this feeling lasts for good, I really would be disappointed in myself if I succumbed to missing her and feeling bad about her again. Good for you man, you have done the right thing. At the moment, you feel great because she was expecting you to call her but you didn't. Its shows her that you arnt needy or desperate and that you arnt in any rush to speak to her. That's why you feel so good, because you didn't put yourself out there. You have left her wondering for once. At some point though, you are going to be tempted to talk to her. And if you do and it dosnt go the way you hope, you are gonna be back to square one. So don't give her the satisfaction man. Find a way to stop yourself. Good work my friend
neghitzbrah Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Good for you man, you have done the right thing. At the moment, you feel great because she was expecting you to call her but you didn't. Its shows her that you arnt needy or desperate and that you arnt in any rush to speak to her. That's why you feel so good, because you didn't put yourself out there. You have left her wondering for once. At some point though, you are going to be tempted to talk to her. And if you do and it dosnt go the way you hope, you are gonna be back to square one. So don't give her the satisfaction man. Find a way to stop yourself. Good work my friend Thanks man. This advice actually helped me to as I am in a similar situation. We need to make improvements in our lives and this just isn't possible if the ex is in it. best of luck!
John Davis Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I told you guys my ex hit me up on gchat 2 days ago to make "small talk" with me, and it prompted me to give her a call that night. I was basically going to be straight forward and ask her why she was making small chat with me after a month of no contact since our break up. If she didn't have anything legitimate to say or expressed interest in being friends, I was all prepared to explain to her that I don't want to be friends because she broke my heart and I need to move on with my life and I can't do that while being friends with her. Well, she didn't answer. She emailed me late that night around midnight saying she missed my call but just noticed and it was too late to call back. Told me to give her a call sometime soon. She hit me up on gchat again the next day, and I said I didn't want to talk over gchat or text or email, and I said I'd call her that night. I didn't call her. I worked out for 2 hours after work and a friend hit me up to go get dinner/drinks at a local pub and we hung out with random chicks and watched the NBA Finals instead. I don't think I am going to call her at this point. The moment has passed. I called out of frustration and wanting to know her intentions but now I think I don't care. If she wanted to get back or express regret she can just come out and say it. I'm not puting myself on the line emotionally for her to shoot me down again only because I think or hope she might tell me something I want to hear. I took enough of her bull****, broke my back doing things for her and showed her everything that I am and as great of a man I can be....she passed on me. If she calls me or contacts me I'll just ignore her or tell her to leave me alone. I realize this might just be a high point and a low point could be on the horizon (again), but right now I feel ready to move on and forget her. She had a month window to make my day and contact me or reconsile and now that feeling seems to have passed from me and I'm annoyed with her and don't want anything to do with her. I'm a great guy, I am loyal, caring, reliable, responsible, and I've lost 20 lbs in a month!! so soon I'll be ultra sexy I hope this feeling lasts for good, I really would be disappointed in myself if I succumbed to missing her and feeling bad about her again. Man, if she failed to reconcile in that one month window, if she didn't make it up to you then you have every reason to move on. A month is TOO patient, she should've done something within a week MAX. People like that nauseate me. Well done man, awesome.
EgoJoe Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Dude, call her and tell her off without holding back. Tell her Cosmo called and they want to use her as a poster girl for women who promote chauvenism as a coping strategy.
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