I finally have a crush after being with the same man for 8 yrs..yikes!!

[yolatanga]

After a horrible break up and crying for 7 mos. I think I'm ready to let it all go. My heart doesn't hurt as much. I sent him a nice note and he responded. I didn't open it yet. He saw me last night. Gave me a hug and said "ok that's it" and left. He didn't say goodbye. I was ok. I handled myself very well. Decipher?

 

Good news, I think I like someone for once and might be ready to date. I'm not sure how he feels about me. I'm a dating flunky...LOL I've been avoiding it. Help!!

 

[2010_Sorry]

You're probably going to hate hearing this, but the fact that you are asking LS to decipher your ex's behavior and are scared to read his reply makes me think that you're not as over him as you believe. I think it's great that you handled yourself very well and are feeling better, but recognize that you could "relapse" if he gave you crumbs.

 

If your intentions with the "crush" are purely casual and you plan to say that up front, then it might help... otherwise, I would be very very cautious. I have found that breaking someone's heart is FAR MORE PAINFUL than having my own heart broken.

[yolatanga]

Oh I know. I am not completely over him. We have some unresolved issues. This crush has no idea how I feel and visa versa. Casual fun. No hearts broken. He could have a gf for all I know. I'm just happy to feel something for someone other than my ex who hurt me so badly. Thanks.

[Rose T]

Yolatanga, I say go for it though! Fancying someone new is HUGE. You know you're still a bit vulnerable but it's such a great feeling to be attracted to someone again, don't let it go. Try and stay aware, but enjoy it too. You deserve it girl, after all this time! Damn! Go have some fun

[yolatanga]

Yolatanga, I say go for it though! Fancying someone new is HUGE. You know you're still a bit vulnerable but it's such a great feeling to be attracted to someone again, don't let it go. Try and stay aware, but enjoy it too. You deserve it girl, after all this time! Damn! Go have some fun

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. It is nice to finally focus on someone else other than my evil ex. The problem is this guy has not asked me out and has sort of ignored our passionate make out session. Why wouldn't he say he liked it or not? He pays lots of attention to me in public and suggests we do things in the future. He texts pretty much which kinda bugs me. The other night he wanted to take me out and cancelled at the last second. I felt like an idiot. Bad signs. I fear his ex is still in the pic or someone he might like. For now I'm backing off. He texted me yesterday and I said I was going out. He didn't respond which is fine by me. I'm reading the book...He's just not that into you". The signs are there that he may not be all that into me. His loss.