anusha Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Hii Friends !! I am Anusha. I am 1st year Student. I Love a guy a lott I first met him in my college at that time i was in 11th standard. I started liking him and then i loved him. I proposed him and he rejected me as he had a gf. But later we became best friends. few months later his gf started annoying him and he got attracted to me. we use to talk the whole day. One day he asked me out for physical relationship (we wer just good frnds at that time). I said No.. but later I agreed. He use to talk abt marraige and children.. our marriage and our children!! We went thru a physical relationship. But exactly 4 days later he started ignoring me. he didnt answered my calls and msgs. he told me on my face that he loved his gf and just bcz he was stressed and tensed during those days of his break ups he wantd to be physical wid me(bcz i supported him as a frnd) !! I got angry and asked him why u did that to me ?? He took me as a frnd with benefits but i loved him truly !! presently i have broke all cntcts with him but i still love him and want him back. Can u guys plzzz help me out with this ??? I have nobody to share.. Plzz help me out plzzz
Exit Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 So basically you were friends for a long time, you loved him but he didn't want to be with you, then his GF upset him and you guys had a brief physical relationship before he distanced himself from you and then told you he was just using you? This guy does not love you, he kept you around as a friend and then used you to make himself feel better when his actual girlfriend had him upset. I'm sorry but you're just gonna have to try to get over this, there was never much there in the first place. Or maybe I am misunderstanding what you wrote and you were actually in a relationship with him? But you make it sound like he was just "with you" for a few days.
Lilmisus Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 So basically you were friends for a long time, you loved him but he didn't want to be with you, then his GF upset him and you guys had a brief physical relationship before he distanced himself from you and then told you he was just using you? This guy does not love you, he kept you around as a friend and then used you to make himself feel better when his actual girlfriend had him upset. I'm sorry but you're just gonna have to try to get over this, there was never much there in the first place. Or maybe I am misunderstanding what you wrote and you were actually in a relationship with him? But you make it sound like he was just "with you" for a few days. Agreed. I'm not sure what a first year student is, but from the sound of it, you're pretty young. Meaning...I doubt you really even know what love is at this point. He was a friend..you probably loved him as a friend, and lusted after him as a lover. He played with your head for a few days, but after that he decided that you weren't worth it...and that he wanted to focus on his girlfriend again. And so you know..you probably never "had him", sadly..she did...therefore, you can't "have him back" no matter how much you may want him in your life again. The thing is...is that you set yourself up for this, if you knew he was still with his girlfriend. It's done, it's over..it's time to move on and forget about this tool. I know it really hurts right now (being used always hurts)..but give it some time and some time away from him, and the pain will go away, and hopefully, you'll learn from your mistakes and never put yourself in the spot to be the "other woman" again.
cjyoung1993 Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 Hi Anusha, I'm sorry for hearing this, thanks for your response on my thread. Unfortunately I think he did not love you and he just used you as a person to fill the void when his girlfriend was not there. You DON'T deserve this, anyone who does this to someone is completely selfish and a person we don't need in our lives. Forget about him and be glad that this happened sooner than later, he is not worth your time or energy. I know how hard it is for now but it will get better, NO CONTACT. and if he breaks up with his girlfriend or w/e don't let him back into your life and don't be the rebound. You'll find someone who is worth your time and energy who loves you and you love them back reciprocated friendship.
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