mmiller5373 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Here's an uplifting personal story. When my ex girlfriend broke up with me 9 months ago, I wasn't in a very good place. I had just moved four hours away to move back in with my mom because since graduating college, I still hadn't found a job. I was unemployed, depressed, broke, and I had no social life. I was a complete mess. The first few months were hard. She left me for another guy and I spent a lot of time doing everything wrong. But, after finding this site and reading some books, I got my act together and worked my butt off to turn my life around. I joined a gym and lost over 30 lbs. I moved out of my moms house because I got a job. What was the job? Well, I'm a camera-man for a local news station in the same city that my ex girlfriend lives in. She has no idea that I moved back here. Well, I've been working here for 6 months and did something quite impossible... I reported my first news story. Yes, I got to write, voice, and be in a 2 minute story. This is something that never happens in such a big TV market. People don't graduate and find themselves on TV a year later; it just doesn't happen. Sometimes it takes years of hard work. And you never hear about a camera man turning into a reporter. But I did it! I worked so hard to find a story and I turned it for our most popular newscast. And it was the top story of the night! So there I was, about to be on TV. What did I do? I called friends and family to tell them. And you can bet I called a mutual friend of the ex to get them to DVR the story for my ex to see! If you had told me 9 months ago that i'd be where I was today, I would have told you that you were crazy! Hope the grass isn't greener after all, ex girlfriend! How do you like me now? Just remember, people. Life does get better. Take this alone time as an opportunity to change your life.
WTRanger Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Here's an uplifting personal story. When my ex girlfriend broke up with me 9 months ago, I wasn't in a very good place. I had just moved four hours away to move back in with my mom because since graduating college, I still hadn't found a job. I was unemployed, depressed, broke, and I had no social life. I was a complete mess. The first few months were hard. She left me for another guy and I spent a lot of time doing everything wrong. But, after finding this site and reading some books, I got my act together and worked my butt off to turn my life around. I joined a gym and lost over 30 lbs. I moved out of my moms house because I got a job. What was the job? Well, I'm a camera-man for a local news station in the same city that my ex girlfriend lives in. She has no idea that I moved back here. Well, I've been working here for 6 months and did something quite impossible... I reported my first news story. Yes, I got to write, voice, and be in a 2 minute story. This is something that never happens in such a big TV market. People don't graduate and find themselves on TV a year later; it just doesn't happen. Sometimes it takes years of hard work. And you never hear about a camera man turning into a reporter. But I did it! I worked so hard to find a story and I turned it for our most popular newscast. And it was the top story of the night! So there I was, about to be on TV. What did I do? I called friends and family to tell them. And you can bet I called a mutual friend of the ex to get them to DVR the story for my ex to see! If you had told me 9 months ago that i'd be where I was today, I would have told you that you were crazy! Hope the grass isn't greener after all, ex girlfriend! How do you like me now? Just remember, people. Life does get better. Take this alone time as an opportunity to change your life. Very nice! But the part in bold disturbs me a little. You really don't need to rub this in the ex's face or even let her (or her friend) know about it. Revenge and gloating to an ex or their friends are all wastes of energy that could be used for better ventures in life. While it's nice, it's just not needed. Very soon you will hopefully feel sweet indifference where it doesn't matter if the ex knows your accomplishments or not. Keep focusing that energy on you and your work. Just make sure that the whole reason you are doing this is not to get back at the ex. You are doing this for you and your betterment.
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I really have a lot of work to do...and I wish u the best of luck/travels.
Author mmiller5373 Posted June 3, 2011 Author Posted June 3, 2011 I can see how the way I wrote it came off as gloating. However, my achievements have nothing to do with my ex other than the fact that her breaking up with me pushed me into changing my life... So in a way, I really do owe her a thank you. Calling the mutual friend was a priority for me because this mutual friend has been there for me during these 9 months. He also took my side during the breakup. He knows what my ex girlfriend did to me. He still sees her every so often and I just happened to mention to him, "dude... If ya ever get the chance..." to which he replied, "I know."
Ghosst Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I guess fate led you to the right place. If you had not had to face those challenges, you may not be the success you are today! Congratualtions on your success in your career.
smudge21 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 If she ever gets in touch, a polite "thank you" may be in order. Mean it too. Nothing shocks people more than knowing you've totally moved on AND that you're thanking them for helping you achieve it.
WTRanger Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I can see how the way I wrote it came off as gloating. However, my achievements have nothing to do with my ex other than the fact that her breaking up with me pushed me into changing my life... So in a way, I really do owe her a thank you. Calling the mutual friend was a priority for me because this mutual friend has been there for me during these 9 months. He also took my side during the breakup. He knows what my ex girlfriend did to me. He still sees her every so often and I just happened to mention to him, "dude... If ya ever get the chance..." to which he replied, "I know." That's great motivation for change your life. Just the way you initially wrote it made it sound worse than it really was. We all want to do the Toby Keith "How Do you Like Me Now?" thing. I was just making sure that wasn't your primary focus for this great change in your life. Truth be told in my opinion, she didn't make the change in you and you certainly don't owe her a thank you. Maybe she provided the spark, but it was you who provided the guts and work to make this change. It was you who decided to change your life for the better. It was you who put in the hard work and busted your ass to skyrocket through the ranks. You saw you needed a change, you made the change, and you succeeded. This is all on you buddy. This change was because you pushed yourself to do it and now you get to reap the amazing benefits.
Exit Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Congrats! But yeah I agree it doesn't at all need to be about considering it a victory over your ex (which you clarified since your original post that you don't really see it that way). As far as thanking exes for inspiring changes in us, nah. I feel the same way, I know I am going to get my butt in shape, and I found myself thinking the same thing, that some day I'll thank her because this situation motivated me to change. But in reality, the only person who would deserve to be thanked is the person who stuck with you and worked through the problems and was there to support you. So no need to thank her, thank yourself.
sun_moon Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Woohoo congratulations! I love hearing about life changing events and careers sky rocketing, I'm living vicariously through you right now lol. Best of luck
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