Dawn09 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Long before my Fiancée and I ever got together I invested in a pricey vibrator. I loved it! I wasn't obsessed but it was nice to "unwind" with it. After he found out I had it he was very intimidated and asked if I would get rid of it. I kept it for awhile after that but rarely used it because we were so "active" then. So i agreed and disposed of it. I regret this sooo much now because he works night and I work during the day so we have the weekends to "do the deed" and thats it. Ugh! I need my way to unwind but he refuses to accept the fact of me having a vibrator!!! He has "little man syndrome" and I don't know if that has anything to do with it?! He satisfies me just fine! But I want an alternative! What should I do? I don't want to hide one because that is just not acceptable in a relationship. I shouldn't have to hide it... Help... Please!! lol
Author Dawn09 Posted June 3, 2011 Author Posted June 3, 2011 Well I did have a face scrubber thing that worked well but he has basically "banned" anything vibrating from the house! lol This all makes him sound controlling but he isn't at all. I suppose he is just very insecure. I need a way to convince him it's ok.
P&R Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Well I did have a face scrubber thing that worked well but he has basically "banned" anything vibrating from the house! lol This all makes him sound controlling but he isn't at all. I suppose he is just very insecure. I need a way to convince him it's ok. Doesn't controlling and insecure usually go hand in hand?
Cee Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Any vibrating object? I guess if you had a 12 inch dildo that you named, "my other boyfriend," I could see he'd be a little uneasy. But, a face scrubber? You might be able to use humor to snap him out of it. Tell him that he could take your vibrator in a fight. Try to demonstrate how ridiculous this situation is. Or tell him that if you can't have your vibrator, he can't look at any porn, sexy pictures, nothing. He can't look at women on the beach. And masturbation is out, too. Or scratching his balls. He needs to see that masturbation is not a threat in any way. You could also bring the vibrator into bed with you. If he learns to use it, he could develop a liking for it. Or you could cut to the chase, bring the vibrator back and not hide it's existence. And let him deal with it and not make it your problem.
denisss Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 You need to explain the situation to him and reassure him as much as you can.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I agree with the poster that said she could understand if you had a 12" dildo laying around. But a vibrator? Do men even understand that something that is purely a vibrator (not one of those dildo/clit vibrator hybrids) is not even used for penetration? It's not like it's taking over the job of their precious penis. Those little pocket rocket vibes are the size of a laser pointer. They even make smaller ones that have a ring attached and slide onto the finger. Your guy sounds very insecure and controlling. No vibrating objects allowed in the house? Seriously?! But I suppose he is allowed to jack off when you're not around, right?
TaraMaiden Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 What about learning how to use your fingers? It's not the same, takes longer, can be drying and tiring and frankly - we don't NEED to work that hard...... This guys is so insecure he's telling you what you can and can't do to pleasure yourself? Unacceptable.
OliveOyl Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 It's not the same, takes longer, can be drying and tiring and frankly - we don't NEED to work that hard...... It's not that difficult for women to learn to give themselves O's with their fingers....
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 He has "little man syndrome" and I don't know if that has anything to do with it?! Exactly how small is he?
TaraMaiden Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 It's not that difficult for women to learn to give themselves O's with their fingers.... Yeah. But we don't have to, so we don't want to. Vibes are more fun. Fingering is fine. taking it to 'O' - can't be asked to work that hard.
rafallus Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Long before my Fiancée and I ever got together I invested in a pricey vibrator. I loved it! I wasn't obsessed but it was nice to "unwind" with it. After he found out I had it he was very intimidated and asked if I would get rid of it. Wow. Just wow. No offense, but that's incredibly wussy stance (of his). Of course keep it around, he may use it while you oral him, he can stick it in your pussy for some extra fun. I'm shocked he got intimidated...
O'Malley Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I can't believe this isn't a troll. Suggested trade off -- no vibrating objects in the home, he wears a Jugum penis device to ward off your insecurities about him masturbating. Of course, you could simply keep what you want privately and neither of you continue to make an issue of it. Perhaps the overall issue is him.
Author Dawn09 Posted June 4, 2011 Author Posted June 4, 2011 Doesn't controlling and insecure usually go hand in hand? I never thought about it but it kinda does. I just don't think of him as controlling because this is the only thing he is adamant about.
Author Dawn09 Posted June 4, 2011 Author Posted June 4, 2011 Is the vibrator bigger than his Johnson? No, not at all. He is actually quite well endowed. That's why I can't figure out why he is so intimidated?! lol
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