cjyoung1993 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 My ex called and she was crying saying she missed me, she loves me, she likes to hear the sound of my voice etc. etc. it was a bad break, other guys were involved and she broke my heart. She clearly showed that she didn't give a **** about me and now shes coming back crying. HOLY **** IM COMPLETELY SET BACK. I JUST FEEL LIKE CRAP
Author cjyoung1993 Posted June 3, 2011 Author Posted June 3, 2011 I told her if she cared about me she would never contact me again
smudge21 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 That must've been tough. Well done for remaining NC and telling her so. She made her choices and now she has to accept those consequences. That of course doesn't help you, as I'm sure you still love her deeply (otherwise you wouldn't feel the way you do now), but take comfort in the fact she's clearly full of regret and probably feeling just as bad as you are. Okay, it's a bit childish to want revenge, but maybe a little ego boost never hurt anyone. I do reckon she'll be in touch again though. Sometimes ex's do come back and if you've consider this then remember it's up to her to prove her love and loyalty all over again. If she does keep calling, remind her of what she's done (if you decide to speak to her that is). Only you can know what you want to do about it, whether you give her a second chance at some point, or whether you totally move on. I know they say once a cheater, always a cheater, but I don't think that's true for everyone. Whatever you decide just remember you're in control now. Do what's best for you and you alone.
WTRanger Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 You may feel set back, but you are in a good mental state if you told her to slag off. You'll feel down for a bit, but you'll feel yourself spring forward by leaps and bounds much sooner than you did during the original breakup. This is all normal relationship behavior, just stay the healing course for yourself.
Exit Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Good advice has been posted so far. You did the right thing. A large majority of the time, contact from people who did regretful things is just them trying to clear their own conscience, trying to survive their own guilt by trying to get you to tell them that it's ok and give them some attention. So it's good that you did not cave easily. You told her to leave you alone if she really loves you, so if she is motivated by absolute pure love and regret for what happened, she will realize that the person she loves just gave her a very clear indication of what she can do to respect you, so see if she honors it. If she does keep trying to contact, it will be up to you if you ever want to take the risk that she really is sorry, or to leave it be. Give yourself a pat on the back. You're a good person and someone who wronged you is now in tears and trying to reach out to you. Some people get cheated on and tossed aside and never have the satisfaction of knowing that the other person is hurting or sorry.
anusha Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 My ex called and she was crying saying she missed me, she loves me, she likes to hear the sound of my voice etc. etc. it was a bad break, other guys were involved and she broke my heart. She clearly showed that she didn't give a **** about me and now shes coming back crying. HOLY **** IM COMPLETELY SET BACK. I JUST FEEL LIKE CRAP My best frnd also went thru the same situation !! The gal dumped him and later came back crying that she loved him. Dont believe such girls. Always remember " A man's DREAMS and a woman's TEARS can do anything in this world ".. My friend dnt do this foolishness of going back to her unless until u see the respective changes in her !! Im anusha I have also posted a thread named- (He cheated But I love him)... Plz help me out too ..
Kodo Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 My ex called and she was crying saying she missed me, she loves me, she likes to hear the sound of my voice etc. etc. it was a bad break, other guys were involved and she broke my heart. She clearly showed that she didn't give a **** about me and now shes coming back crying. HOLY **** IM COMPLETELY SET BACK. I JUST FEEL LIKE CRAP I wish I had the courage to do what you did. My ex left me and rebounded almost immediately (I still think she planned it before she dumped me) and when she called back a year later to try again, I forgot all the pain I went through and said yes. here I am now after her dumping me recently. If I had of done what you just did, I could have even been in a better relationship with a brighter future. Great work.
John Davis Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 My ex called and she was crying saying she missed me, she loves me, she likes to hear the sound of my voice etc. etc. it was a bad break, other guys were involved and she broke my heart. She clearly showed that she didn't give a **** about me and now shes coming back crying. HOLY **** IM COMPLETELY SET BACK. I JUST FEEL LIKE CRAP She broke your heart, enough said. Someone who really loves you will never allow that to happen and if it does, they will make up for it in a big big way. Otherwise, there are people out there that will treat you and love you in wonderful ways, in ways that you deserve. Some wouldn't know love if it hit them in the face with a shovel, but that's life. You'll find someone better I guarantee it:) Patience. Do not give in to the words of those who hurt you. Just remember the bad things and it'll be much easier.
Chi townD Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 By the way, How was your Prom? How did that go over? Did she try to approach you there? Spill it dude!!!!!
EgoJoe Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Tell her that EgoJoe said to take a long walk off of a short bridge.
Nohbody Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I honestly hope I have the huevos rancheros to do the same thing you did when and if. Good for you.
Author cjyoung1993 Posted June 4, 2011 Author Posted June 4, 2011 Thanks all for the response! Everyday now I want to hear from her for some reason and its again, hard to stop thinking about her. She's like can I do anything to make it better etc. etc.If I caved in two days ago I KNOW I would have regretted it the next day. All of my friends and family would have been like wtf...holy crap and they were like don't let this girl do this to you again and I know I made the correct decision based on all of your supportive responses. To Chi townD: My prom wasn`t great, she was with the other dude and they were sitting like right across from my table, she didn`t say hi as evidently I was upset that she went with him and RIGHT after prom she emailed me asking to help her decide universities and it was an awkward prom...I was like wtf?? I pretended to have a good time and have some nice pictures with my bro's I'm SO GLAD I WENT THOUGH. If i didn't go I definitely would have felt 50x worse as I would have let her take that away from me too, thanks for your advice. Afterprom was fun fun fun though, despite having lack of the opposite sex I drank 5 shots of jack Daniels and 7 shots of vodka and was going off the walls till 5:30 am haha, no hangover though! thanks loveshack for your support!
Author cjyoung1993 Posted June 4, 2011 Author Posted June 4, 2011 Also, she was like tell me if you want to be together in university...I was like wth? Do you want to be with me now? Shes like I dont know. So I told her off and she started crying saying she wanted me in her life and wanted to call me every night and be my friend. I said I couldn't be her friend because of how much she hurt me. Is this the right thing to do? I've been upset over her for so long and she keeps messing me over. I've had enough I think :S
Author cjyoung1993 Posted June 4, 2011 Author Posted June 4, 2011 Thanks all for the response! Everyday now I want to hear from her for some reason and its again, hard to stop thinking about her. She's like can I do anything to make it better etc. etc.If I caved in two days ago I KNOW I would have regretted it the next day. All of my friends and family would have been like wtf...holy crap and they were like don't let this girl do this to you again and I know I made the correct decision based on all of your supportive responses. To Chi townD: My prom wasn`t great, she was with the other dude and they were sitting like right across from my table, she didn`t say hi as evidently I was upset that she went with him and RIGHT after prom she emailed me asking to help her decide universities and it was an awkward prom...I was like wtf?? I pretended to have a good time and have some nice pictures with my bro's I'm SO GLAD I WENT THOUGH. If i didn't go I definitely would have felt 50x worse as I would have let her take that away from me too, thanks for your advice. Afterprom was fun fun fun though, despite having lack of the opposite sex I drank 5 shots of jack Daniels and 7 shots of vodka and was going off the walls till 5:30 am haha, no hangover though! thanks loveshack for your support!
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