Darkangelism Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 i asked this girl out for firm plans and i got rejected, i feel bad now.
hurtingandconfused Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Are you asking random girls out? That's what it seems like...why don't you get to know them a bit...get their number, talk to them and see if they're interested...then ask them out. If that is what you do and still get rejected...Keep on trying
PurpleAngel Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 How did you ask her out??? Have you tried to understand what when wrong or was she just not interested in dating???
Author Darkangelism Posted April 15, 2004 Author Posted April 15, 2004 i asked her if she wanted to go to dinner on friday, she said she was busy, so i asked some other time maybe and she said no. She wasnt that random, we talked 4 times before and had studied together.
PurpleAngel Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Who was this girl??? Have you known her long? Did she know you? Have you associated with her socially?? Did you have a suspicion the she liked you??? etc... MORE INFO! I would like to help!
UCFKevin Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Okay. One down. How many million to go? Don't let that s*** get you down.
amerikajin Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 >>>asked this girl out for firm plans and i got rejected, i feel bad now<<< Remember to be cocky, funny, and walk like a pimp. Pink shades, bellbottoms, a big furry coat, and a titled sombrero-like hat thingy doesn't hurt, either. Okay, seriously... Don't put so much pressure on yourself, DA. Keep taking swings - that's the only way you get better. Even the studs strike out...more often than you think.
krbshappy71 Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Dinner can seem a bit much for a girl, a bit formal. How about trying for something lighter? Start with lunch, coffee, "catch a movie" and see if you get any "bites". I may just be shy, but dinner can be a bit uncomfortable until I really know the person. Just a suggestion. Be cocky, yes! Be aloof but not a jerk, just sure of yourself and happy.
longlegzs80 Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Humm, I think you should of asked her out for coffee after you both did some studing together. Nothing big, but just something. But what the hell, I can't be giving dating advice, I don't even feel like I know anything anymore as far as the dating scene goes.
Author Darkangelism Posted April 15, 2004 Author Posted April 15, 2004 Originally posted by krbshappy71 just sure of yourself and happy. Thats the hard part. I am not going to chase her anymore, ill go find a new girl to reject me, its not that hard.
longlegzs80 Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 You know what, I really have alot of respect for someone like you who has enough courage to ask someone out. YOU GO BOY!!!!
longlegzs80 Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 well, maybe it is the way you approach the situation. Maybe that is why your getting rejected. But you have to be patient and understand that it will happen when it happens. Things like that just fall into place. But, just ask her or whoever you are going to ask out next if they would like to go out for coffee or something. Nothing big, just simple.
Author Darkangelism Posted April 15, 2004 Author Posted April 15, 2004 Originally posted by longlegzs80 You know what, I really have alot of respect for someone like you who has enough courage to ask someone out. YOU GO BOY!!!! Thanks. Im not sure what i am doing wrong, just bad luck probably.
yes Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 eh - one less fish to wonder abt. go look for a new one we can't know what u'r doing wrong, if anything, either, but u'll figure it out - this stuff takes some practice and experimentation! better luck next time, -yes
longlegzs80 Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 I can't really say what your doing wrong when asking someone out. But there are little signs and hints to let someone know that you are attracted to them. And if you get a response from them, that would probubly be the aok to ask them out. I find if someone asks me out, I am just overall flattered because that does not usually happen to me. So, these women who you ask out, should be flattered that you are attracted to them and would like some kind of relationship.
Author Darkangelism Posted April 15, 2004 Author Posted April 15, 2004 Yeah i miss those signs, i usually see ones that are not there. The women should be flattered, they dont know what they are missing. You have th eopposite reason for not getting aked out, you ae too pretty. Once you build up your confidence you will be fine.
dolphinsunshyn Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Sorry to hear that DA. In my dating experience, I have developed a theory. For every 1 person who doesn't want to date you, there are 2 others who do! I have always found it to be true, so do let your confidence suffer becuase of this one little setback. There are plenty of other nice girls out there. One of these days, when you least expect it, someone GREAT will come along and sweep YOU off of YOUR feet! She is out there and she is going to see all of the wonderful qualities you posess. When it happens to you DA, you know that it is going to be forever. Don't let all of the BS get you down in the meantime. Just have fun, be yourself, and stay confident! Girls will be lining up at your door.
Author Darkangelism Posted April 15, 2004 Author Posted April 15, 2004 Thanks y'all, you are the best, made me feel better.
amerikajin Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 DA, Some chicks just like to flirt, so you have to remember that in the back of your mind. I think the best thing to do is to play the numbers game and not think of any specific girl as a girlfriend prospect right off the bat. That was one of the hardest lessons I had to learn. I used to get all giddy about a girl that I liked, to the point where I was almost too nervous or too excited to ask them. And when I did, it was always alot of anxiety, which undoubtedly showed. I think that the little coffee dates are the way to go, like after work or school or something. It's relaxed, and you don't waste a lot of time or money if you don't hit it off. Your approach does matter. For example, be decisive and direct. Don't say stuff like "I don't know...maybe...would you like to meet me for coffee or something?" That shows you lack confidence and that you're too nervous about rejection. She'll think about how uncomfortable two hours is going to be with you. Instead, be suggestive "Let's meet for coffee sometime next week. Which day and time is best for you?" Like I said, play the numbers game: keep dating different women until YOU decide who you want to be with. Don't apologize for it, either. Not saying be a selfish playboy, but heck, if you're not tied, you're not tied.
pav186 Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 well im certainly not the king of dating, more because im kinda shy than anything but ive learned a couple things. I dont ever seem overly interested, just some subtle flirting and see how they react, keep it light. If they flirt back a little its a good sign. And I agree with not going with the whole dinner thing. The suggestion of going to lunch or get coffee was a good one. Anthing not as date-ish (had to make up my own word there ) Also, I dont ever try to force things to happen. I pretty much just go about my life until I find someone I'm interested in and who's interested in me, then I pursue it from there. Putting too much pressure on yourself can make you nervous and girls can sense that...i dont know how but they do... I'm also not a very cocky guy but if you play the part it really does help. I guess its more the air of confidence than anything.
yes Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 Also, I dont ever try to force things to happen. I pretty much just go about my life until I find someone I'm interested in and who's interested in me, then I pursue it from there. Putting too much pressure on yourself can make you nervous and girls can sense that...i dont know how but they do... Silly qn but - what do you mean by not forcing things to happen? That you don't go girl-hunting? -yes
da_man_myth_legend Posted April 15, 2004 Posted April 15, 2004 You got to make the woman feel like you are in charge of things. You probably know how to act cause you are a man, but don't let yourself down so easy. Guys are meant to be tough, and when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Keep trying and you'll find the woman. Just make sure she's your league, (age, education, distance, job, etc.) and you're set dude.
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