wilsonx Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I have 100000000 things running through my mind. My ex is finally moving out today and we talked this morning and I told her I do not know why I hung around after I knew she had lied to me and cheated on me (I knew but she told me for a year that nothing happened). She made a comment on how I lost my dignity and I propped up and looked at her in shock. She told me when shes not mad at me anymore she will come knock on my door and I was like huh uh? WHAT? She has GIGS big time and broke up with me because I caught her at a bar with another guy thats 15 years older then her. That dignity comment stuck in my head all day and while at work my friend told me yea the same **** happened to me back in Dec and I chased chased and chased her for 5-6 months and it was a waste. So I called her up, asked her if she remembered that dignity comment she made to me and she replied yes, and I said well Im calling to restore my dignity again... I do not want to ever see you again and she hung up on me. She called me back like 10 seconds later and I asked if she heard what I said and she said yes... I am in FULL NC with her NOW... she has moved out and taking all her crap out. Not only that but I blocked her on facebook so to remove all the memories of her posting on my wall. We couldnt NC before because we lived together but now, its game on. Day 0 - FULL NC has started / Facebook Blocked / Removed Phone Number and Texts / Emails Wish me luck, I will post here what I have to say to her everyday instead of Contacting her
kj4412 Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Taking the step of removing number, blocking on facebook, and removing everything I have that reminded me of her is the best decision I ever made. At first I was scared to, im so glad I did. And thats awesome, proud of you!! And trust me it will help so much!!
Fedor Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Good move on your part! Now you have the upper hand . She'll be the one chasing now with her tail between her legs.
cookiecrumbles Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 good on ya buddy, way to go! that is exactly how it should be done. It is a good feeling knowing you made the last call, not her! Keep it up.
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 NICE! Wow...worse comment ever..and I thought I heard some whoppers. "lost your dignity"?
millimeter Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 ... yes and if possible, don't break the NC EVEN IF you feel a little more sentimental. You will regain your full dignity by sticking to it. I did it and feels awesome. I healed SUPER fast too (by not escaping my true emotions, but by escaping him - I'm the dumpee of course). Keep us informed. You can do this. At first, it is something like a little revenge.. but soon enough, it will just be a mean by which you'll put you first and know you better. But hey, one step at a time.
Author wilsonx Posted June 3, 2011 Author Posted June 3, 2011 Ugh, she didnt move out last night... and I failed... I thought she would have been out but she wasnt and we talked =( Im so mad at myself... so mad... We had a more honest open conversation now that the relationship was over then we did anytime in the relationship. She told me last night that she has a lot of issues shes not happy with herself about (a list of them), also her mother was really evil and teased her and her brother. We also ended up hooking up afterwards. God damnit Im so mad. I told her shes not allowed to do that anymore. She needs to be the one that stops it. Shes moving out right now and I said good bye and am going to try to sleep. So Day 0 All Over Again... NC has started
Chi townD Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 hee...hee....Ummm....okay....Take two.... That's awesome, dude! I'm pulling for ya!
Author wilsonx Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 I Am officially 24 hours NC Now... Day 1 Begins
california15 Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 hey - I'm here with you! Day 5 for me. Us less-than-1-week newbies have to stick together... its the most raw and painful in the beginning from what I gather, so we might be experiencing similar things, as with the other NCers struggling too. It's hard but you can do it. and I can do it too.
TearyEyedPride Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Your ex is just rude! Ugh. Sounds like she sucks. In your case... I'm glad you totally cut her off. Even in the sad state I'm in i'm sincerely happy for you! Keep it up!!
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