Cee Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 It's been 4 months of dating my BF and it seems like the "in love" feelings have increased since our vacation last weekend. We spent four nights together and it was easy and relaxed. When I got home, I definitely felt more caring and loving toward him. And I think he feels the same. He came over unexpectedly last night and showered me with care and affection. And in the morning (after I jumped him), he wanted to hear me talk about my big meeting today. We've been emailing today and he tweeted a joke I made about our relationship to him. I was geeked over that. I'm sorry to sound like a love sick teenager, but this man is incredible. All I can think is how lucky I am. I keep telling myself that the honeymoon phase will end, but so far it hasn't. I'll stop gushing now.
vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I know what you mean. I'm on month 6 and it's getting better and better and a part of me is almost ready to say "can we just over this phase and get to the nitty gritty so we can really see what we are up against?" I'm enjoying it but....I want to come down off cloud 9 eventually so I can get down to business!
Author Cee Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 Thanks, denise_xo Vsmini - You voiced exactly what I was thinking, "When are we going to have that first difficult discussion?" But I will refrain from speeding the end of this lovely time. I'm sure we'll piss each other off in due time.
Kamille Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 oooh a thread worthy of bunnies. :bunny: I'm glad it's going well Cee. Bf and I have had fights, and sometimes I let work related stress get in the way, but it's been 2 years for us and my feelings for him are still getting stronger. Just sayin', sometimes, the honeymoon phase just doesn't want to relent. And fights don't always mean the end of it. In fact, there's nothing more amazing than hitting a snag with someone, and realizing that the infatuation you felt in the first few months was actually grounded in reality.
denise_xo Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 The 'nice' thing about fights is when they actually bring you closer as a couple. A bit like once you get out of it on the other side, you've entered a qualitatively different plane together.
Shadesofgray Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 That is exactly how I feel.I caught myself almost wanting to fight just so I could see what happened. Am I crazy?? Sometimes it's just right and that's all there is to it. I'm sure we are going to fight..and issues are going to come up..but I feel like we communicate so well that it will be something to be worked through..not something that will ruin everything...if that makes sense. It's a great feeling to be happy isnt it? Congrats
allina Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 That's wonderful Cee! And of course the honeymoon phase won't be over after 4 months! At almost 5 years together it isn't even over for me and hubby!
Els Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Awesome! I think the feelings you describe aren't really 'honeymoon' phase though - I think they're integral to every romantic relationship. They MUST be present, although they might perhaps get a little more stable after a while, like a pleasantly simmering soup instead of a fiercely bubbling one. I would define a honeymoon phase as the 'no problems whatsoever in our relationship' phase. THAT typically always has to end.
oaks Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 I'll stop gushing now. No, keep going. This is great news and it might cancel out some of the bitterness in here. Also: :bunny:
Author Cee Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 You are a nice girl Cee, you deserve it That's so sweet of you to say. Thank you. I think the greatest gift I have given myself is learning to regulate my emotions. Sometimes they surge like a mighty wave, but I don't react and relax as they come and go. I am an emotional rather than an analytical person so it took a lot of practice to realize that "feelings aren't facts." But I have to give him a lot of the credit for the peace. He is so easygoing and pleasant all of the time. If he is stressed, he gets quiet and tired. But he never pushes me away. And I'm glad he is not into grand romantic gestures. I hate that stuff. Instead, he delights me with little surprises. Last night, he was his typical adorable self. While I hung out at his place, he ran to the drug store for toilet paper and came back with a couple of small presents for me. I hope we can have more threads about the substance and benefits of relationships, rather than only the pitfalls. I personally would like to process this new world I am within.
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