Henry Gale Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Hey all, new here, but need some advice...go easy on me! Here's the scenario, I have a friend who I started sleeping with about a month ago, basically a FWB. We both enjoy what we have and "get together" on a very regular basis. Here is the catch, I think I'm developing feelings for her, actually I think I may have even had them before then. I think she may be starting to have feelings for me, but I'm not sure. I don't want to screw anything up friendshipwise, also don't want to jam up what we have going now with relationship stuff. So basically I'm interested to hear what some of the signs are that I can look for from her that may tell me she has feelings for me more than just FWB. I'm 27 years old, I've been around the block, I'm not asking how to tell if a girl likes me here. But it can be touch when you are already sexually involved with someone to tell what are just "bedroom" feelings or more. I would love to hear from some girls on this. Any info is appreciated!
vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I don't want to screw anything up friendshipwise, I'm not saying you have yet but....FWB is usually a pretty good way to screw that up. It's very risky. So basically I'm interested to hear what some of the signs are that I can look for from her that may tell me she has feelings for me more than just FWB. I'm 27 27! Signs? Boy - don't look for signs - people misread those things 95% of the time anyway. You have to be a grown up and ask her how she feels. No other way around it. It's a total possibility that this could turn into something more and often being friends and having that groundwork set out is a good thing but...time to be a big boy and work on that communication.
Cee Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 From what I hear (and experienced), FWB ends when one person develops feelings for the other. In your case, you have feelings for her so it's time to bring up the subject. You can broach it that you'd like to either become romantically involved or go back to "friends only." It's possible she has feelings for you, but the only way to know is to have a talk. Your friendship may blow up, but even if you had a perfect FWB arrangement, it would probably end once one of you found someone else to date. Even if she says she's not interested in a relationship, you are better off. It's better to know where you stand than to continue sleeping with her under false pretenses.
ilovedhim Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Invite her out somewhere, don't call it a date. If she declines, then you'll know.
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