TheAwesomeGuy Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 (edited) So to start off, I would like to give you a brief overview of my girlfriend. My girlfriend is suicidal because she has self-image issues. She thinks that she isn't pretty (believe me, she is smoking). She hasn't had sex in the past except with me but she has given guys oral and has hooked up with a lot of guys just to recieve attention. She just likes to seek attention from guys and by doing this stuff with them, it made her feel wanted. I on the other hand, have done nothing sexual with any other girl except with her. I have hooked up before but not that often. I am 17 and she is 16. Now onto the story. We have been going out for 6 months and it has been great. We have many things in common and we have a great time with each other. Our relationship took a turn for the worse about a month ago when my girlfriend went over to a guys house becuase this guy knew about her situation and she wanted comfort. I didn't know about her issue at the time and she didn't want to tell me because she thought I would break up with her. Anyways, this guy was her old crush before me. She promised me nothing would happen. Well, the next day, i get a text saying what went down. They were talking and my girlfriend was texting. This guy then suddenly kisses her and she kissed back. After 2 seconds, she pushes him off and leaves immediately. I asked her how she felt when she kissed him and she had said it was comforting becuase she was really scared at the time. But after those two seconds, she said she was instantly filled with remorse and sadness. She also told me if it were any other guy, she would not have kissed him. She thinks I am going to break up with her any second and doesnt think she deserves me. She always tells me she loves and and hates herself because of this. She tells me she has cried and has nightmares of me leaving her. I know she isn't lying about that stuff because she isn't that kind of girl who would make up lies out of desperation. She tells me that I am the only one she wants. What would you do? I am inclined to stay with her but i do not know how to get over this incident. I would like to thank all of you in advance who will be helping me. I can tell she is very sorry. Edit: She said she felt nothing during the kiss. It was purely for comfort. She feels disgusted with herself and still is. Edited June 2, 2011 by TheAwesomeGuy
rafallus Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I am 17 and she is 16. You're both too young to be commited. Have fun.
Mimolicious Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 16? and that is "ALL" she's done? Whoa! I don't want to know what she will be doing at 21... Let's be for real. You guys are basically KIDS. Please get yourself checked. Herpes can be spread from mouth to mouth.
RRM Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 It sounds like she has a lot of issues. However much you may like her, you have to ask yourself if you're really willing to stick it out with all of her problems. It might be a good idea for her to get evaluated by a professional and see if seeing someone might help her resolve these issues.
John Michael Kane Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 You're both too young to be commited. Have fun. Oh please enough with the "you're young it doesn't matter" advice. They're both old enough to know right from wrong and his feelings are legitimate. She's a cheater and she needs to be dropped.
rafallus Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Oh please enough with the "you're young it doesn't matter" advice. They're both old enough to know right from wrong and his feelings are legitimate. She's a cheater and she needs to be dropped. I'm not saying it doesn't matter, I'm saying don't get commited at that age, because odds she'll be messing around grow exponentially. And so may he want to in fact.
PegNosePete Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 What would you do? Instadump. You're in for nothing but trouble if you stay with someone like this. Don't date fixer-uppers.
Mimolicious Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Instadump. You're in for nothing but trouble if you stay with someone like this. Don't date fixer-uppers. Nope! Cause they are every handymen's dream!
John Michael Kane Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I'm not saying it doesn't matter, I'm saying don't get commited at that age, because odds she'll be messing around grow exponentially. And so may he want to in fact. But that's just hypotheticals in regards to him. The fact of the matter is that she's a cheater and he needs to drop her HARD.
rafallus Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 I'm not questioning that, my advice was for nearest future reference
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