vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 When I say heavy I mean making out. Not nuzzling or cuddling with little kisses but full on slurping sounds while people are standing right next to you. I have been so grossed out on the subway at times. A couple will be 4 feet away from me and I can hear their moans and slurping over the sound of my own damn ipod. Everyone ignored it and since I wanted to get to work this morning with out a subway conflict I kept my mouth shut but.... The question is: Do you partake in this? Do you think couples get off on doing this kind of heavy PDA in public? When you see it do you think it's wrong/gross/fine/obnoxious? It bothered me, I think it's gross but when I was looking for reasons why I thought it was disgusting I really didn't have a solid reason - perhaps because we've mostly been brought up to keep that stuff behind closed doors?
Imajerk17 Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 To me, sexy is something only the two of you can see. Her bare feet on your lap, but it's concealed under the table at a restaurant. My hand on her azz as she is leaning on her back against the wall. I'm a guy and I like subtle too.
Mrlonelyone Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Could you say what PDA stands for? I have an idea but I would need to be sure. (To me PDA means personal digital assistant... what a palm pilot was before a cell phone did all that.) I am very reserved in my affections in public. Yes some people get off on doing that and much more in public places. They get off on the idea of being watched, either because it's "wrong" or they want to show off what they have. There are all kinds of fetishes's.... if the question is "Do people get off by X" the answer is yes.
EasyHeart Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 PDA == "Public display of affection" If I see people making out like the OP describes, I usually tap the man on his shoulder and say, "Mind if I cut in?"
Mrlonelyone Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Public Display of Affections Oh that's all your talking about. Phfft what's wrong with that. I thought you could have meant P*nis Di*k and A$$ in public. Just kidding. What you could do since you are a woman and would get away with it... Toss some cold water on them. Just take a whole bottle of water and empty it out on the mans head.
Author vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 This is NYC - I'd end up in the hospital and the judge would rule in their favor because I was a New Yorker not minding my own business.
Cee Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 When I was in college I was making out with my boyfriend at 30th Street Station in Philly. It's a gigantic train station and we were having a ball on a bench. Then I heard a metallic voice address me. It was a remote operated robot telling us to cut out the PDA. I was so embarrassed, but it was hilarious. Must have amused the onlookers. Hmmm, a fleet of robot PDA police might work.
fishtaco Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Yeah I like PDA. Not to the point of slurping and moaning. But I enjoy PDA, and I'm not shy about it. So I guess I tend to be more forgiving with other people's PDA. I would consider that annoying and tacky, but I'd ignore them.
ilovedhim Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 This is NYC - I'd end up in the hospital and the judge would rule in their favor because I was a New Yorker not minding my own business. Gorss, was this in the a.m.? I live here too. Try taking your 2 year old nephew to the playground and seeing high schoolers grinding on the swings.
Author vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 Gorss, was this in the a.m.? I live here too. Try taking your 2 year old nephew to the playground and seeing high schoolers grinding on the swings. Yes! 730am. I can barely keep my eyes open and these kids are rounding 2nd base.
FrostFire Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Then don't watch plain and simple. It's a free country and we PDA'ers can do what we want within reason. Don't like it? too bad no one said you had to like it. Just walk away or ignore it. How hard can that be? I don't see why it's such a big deal or the big fuss is all about. We aren't changing to satisfy everyone. This the usual couples mindset when displaying public affection. It's how we roll...
Janesays Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I've been known to make out in public places, but I'll also go somewhere where no one else is around. For example, empty playground or behind a building or something. I need my privacy in case I want to cop a feel, yo.
FrostFire Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 It might frustrate you... You might take offense... You might find us gross... We couples that display public affection just don't care what you think. Until it's outlawed will we worry and that will never happen. So stop thinking how gross it is and perhaps try it on your own. It's actually a lot of fun! Even more fun when we see a negative reaction towards it. It just influences us to do it more and more! Muahahahaha Come dump that water on me please. Let's put that HOT spark out!!
Author vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 Then don't watch plain and simple. It's a free country and we PDA'ers can do what we want within reason. Don't like it? too bad no one said you had to like it. Just walk away or ignore it. How hard can that be? I don't see why it's such a big deal or the big fuss is all about. We aren't changing to satisfy everyone. This the usual couples mindset when displaying public affection. It's how we roll... Jesus H. Christ - the free country argument. Bullet proof and solid gold...and usually used when someone doesn't have a true argument worth a lick. Of course it's a free country. But tell me this - would you suck down your boyfriend's tongue in front of your Grandmother? Co-workers? Siblings? A stranger on a train that might be getting off on the two of you getting off? Probably not. Why not? Would you just tell Nana to Eff off because it's how you roll?
FrostFire Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Jesus H. Christ - the free country argument. Bullet proof and solid gold...and usually used when someone doesn't have a true argument worth a lick. Of course it's a free country. Usually used? No a simple fact called Freedom. Learn what that means please. It's the best argument because that's just what it is. An expression of how much freedom one actually does have in this world. In this case it's offensive to some because boohoo you were raised by different standards. I don't give a ... But tell me this - would you suck down your boyfriend's tongue in front of your Grandmother? Co-workers? Siblings? A stranger on a train that might be getting off on the two of you getting off? Probably not. I would suck down my girlfriend's tongue in front of anyone. I have done it in front of co-workers, family, you name it. Do they take offense? some do and some don't. They can judge me and I don't really care. I will never change to meet some other "set standard" that they think I should match. As long as me and my girlfriend are both comfortable doing it then we will continue doing it. When I'm met with the slightest resistance or reluctance from my girlfriend then I know when to stop. Most of us PDA's get off just doing that very thing in public. I guess you can say we're more exhibitionists than other non-pda's. Why not? Would you just tell Nana to Eff off because it's how you roll?Why yes I would because it's none of her damn business what I'm doing. She don't like it too bad... She'll get over it eventually. If not then that's her problem not mine.
Author vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 Hey Everyone! FrostFire would tell his Nan to F off and not think twice about it. I'm assuming after that you'd grab your crotch, ejaculate on something to prove your macho-man, I don't give a crap attitude and salute the American flag. You're free to do it.
FrostFire Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Vsmini, if you're trying to understand a person that displays public affection's mindset then look a little bit into exhibitionism and why we like it. We love it soooooo much because it's stimulating that we can be so comfortable with each other in public not caring a rat's @$$ about what's going on around us. It's about being caught up in the moment with the other person. It's more intense when we observe negative reactions because we'll just do it more and more and more. However, sometimes the opposite happens when we're complimented or it's actually brought to our attention in a cute playful way. Only for a brief second as we become aware of it and then go right back into it. We'll never change... sorry to say! Embrace us or ignore us. The choice is yours. In closing vsmini, you need to stop thinking in your little perfect world people will be the way you want them to be. We don't live in your world and you can scream, cry, report or do whatever. The fact remains we're never going to change. If we want to kiss, neck and touch without exposing anything then we will. It only becomes illegal when indecent exposure is done. Until then stop getting your panties in such a bunch...
Author vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 I assume the same applies to 300 pound halter top and thong wearing women bending over in front of you? or men with gigantic guts hanging out of wifebeaters and over their belts? How bout a kid that keeps squealing and playing the same toy sound over and over in the seat behind you on a plane? We have the right to do lots of rude things in this country. Doesn't make them the -right- things to do. Oh the children! THE CHILDREN! With the toys! With the parents that have that lifeless look in their eye and won't tell the kid to stop. 3 hour NYC-DC train ride with a little princess behind us making really loud oink-oink pig noises non-stop. #@!&(@%@!$#&(%(%^&$%@#
FrostFire Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 (edited) I assume the same applies to 300 pound halter top and thong wearing women bending over in front of you? or men with gigantic guts hanging out of wifebeaters and over their belts? How bout a kid that keeps squealing and playing the same toy sound over and over in the seat behind you on a plane? We have the right to do lots of rude things in this country. Doesn't make them the -right- things to do. True but the fact is. None of that bothers me as I have dealt with it just fine. I either ignore it or embrace it. Not much else I can do. I don't go all around whining about it like the OP has and vsimni clearly has offensive reactions to. Let's just all shake hands and go on living our happy separate little lives. You go on your panty bunching whining about how everything offends you and I'll go on living my happy little life that gets you people all worked up over nothing. WOW lol Edited June 2, 2011 by FrostFire
Author vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 We love it soooooo much because it's stimulating that we can be so comfortable with each other in public not caring a rat's @$$ about what's going on around us. I can understand the charm in that and being in that rapturous moment. There are people who love to claim they don't give a "rat's ass" about anyone - I guess it makes them feel really good to not care at all about what anyone else thinks - now my mind flashes to those girls on the M. Povich show that want to have a baby at 13 and say "I do what I want! I don't care! Y'all don't know me! I do what I want!" So that's fine. You keep making out and I'll keep being grossed out.
FrostFire Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 So that's fine. You keep making out and I'll keep being grossed out. Thank you. Will do!!
FrostFire Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 (edited) Will just assume you stopped there, as the rest of it didn't make much sense. Let me help it make more sense for you. What one person finds rude is not necessarily rude to another. Just because some find PDA rude does not mean others do or don't. No one is saying that they're right or wrong. That's just some crazy thought engraved in your head by whomever you were raised by, what you were raised by, and many other factors. What's right for you is not right for another. All your arguments are invalid because you got nothing to back them up on except how "wrong" and "gross" it is. Your fail examples of trying to make something wrong and rude aren't so rude. It's all in your head and you're making a big fuss out of nothing. Simply, there is nothing rude about PDA. There is something wrong and rude about indecent or public exposure and no one is talking about this (it's only wrong because the government says it is otherwise more would do it). We're talking about public displays of affection. It only becomes wrong when one is breaking the laws set forth by the local government. Oh shocked? Stop whining and learn to embrace others. Otherwise go cry to your govt. See how far you'll get:lmao::p:rolleyes::laugh: Edited June 2, 2011 by FrostFire
Banker Chick Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 This reminded me of an experience last weekend. Went to dinner with a friend at a really nice restaurant. Got dressed up, looked nice and was really anticipating a nice meal and good conversation. The tables are close together and we were having a nice time until the young (had to be late high school, early college) couple came in and were seated at the table next to us, directly in our line of sight. The didn't even get asked for their drink order before they were completely making out. I was in the middle of a sentence and had to stop. It was like a car accident ... I hated to look but couldn't tear my eyes away. They just went at it and left nothing to the imagination...running their fingers through each others hair, groping each other, full on tongue, etc. This went on forever and unfortunately we had nowhere to go and weren't done with our meal so we were stuck trying to avert our gaze. They were apparently oblivious that the rest of the room was staring and laughing at them. What was funny was eventually what appeared to be maybe a sister and mother showed up and were seated with them and that promptly ended all PDA.
FrostFire Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 (edited) It's not like we're having sex in front of you. We're just showing some affection instead this affection is public. Big Deal? People may say we crave the attention. I mean it's a given we know we're going to get some sort of reaction because, let's face it, most of us are raised to keep it all behind closed doors. That is until we realize boy were we mistaken. Why are us human beings so uptight about such things... Here you see a couple going at it with their lips and perhaps petting. Why not join in? What's the fear?? There's nothing wrong with it. And don't give me it takes a certain person or mind to do it. No it just takes you to release all your inhibitions. It takes you to ignore all your teachings, religions, beliefs, etc... The very core of what makes you YOU. My girlfriend brought this side out of me and I am so happy she did. She kissed me in public on a train next to many strangers watching us. From that moment on we have NEVER stopped and never will. It takes you releasing all and everything. Surrendering yourself and body to the whole experience. Did I have the attitudes of taking offense towards PDA. I sure did until I tried it. Now I love it. Try it and see it's not as bad as you think!! P.S. sanskrit, my quoted post from you is not directed towards you but towards everyone crying about how offended they are about public displays of affection. Edited June 2, 2011 by FrostFire
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