worlybear Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 So here I am again. Just got back from solicitors and don't feel great. my job ends on July 17th and I have been desperately chasing job applications- had an interview 2 weeks ago but it went 2 someone in house. I'm tired and depressed. I can't see a way forward- if I want to complete the divorce it means I will have to borrow the money from my mum and the chances of winning back any costs are negligible. So whilst my ex gets legal aid, (despite having a full time permanent job)has a new life and partner, I have to pay for a divorce I never wanted in the 1st place! WTF!!! My son (who has been very supportive) went off the deep end when I told him as he wanted everything tidied up and finished so he could travel. I'm left feeling that its my fault. My family are in pieces- I've no-one to talk to and I'm at the bottom of a mountain. And d'you know what- I don't want to climb it anymore. I'm done.
TaraMaiden Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 FYI, he will still have to pay the legal aid back. He will lose out, because it's not a free ticket. You need to rest, and maybe change direction. Take a break, and stop thinking and believing you have to be 100% strong, 100% of the time. You deserve to write and tell him how this IS all his fault, and how sick and tired you are of his seemingly riding a high wave while you flounder in the depths of it. This will come back on him. It will. I promise you.
brokendreamz Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 That sounds awful mate. I'm 5 months out of an 8 year relationship and 2 days ago found out she'd been seeing a guy from her work. I thought I was half way up my mountain but I've been slipping since this peice of news. Also - the people buying out house have just asked for a 7 grand reduction so I too am fed up with constantly fighting battles that I didn't start and don't want anything to do with. Although you are lookiing up another mountain, every journey must start with one step. Just take it a day at a time and try to work on through it. One phrase that has helped me is 'This Too Shall Pass' and it will... Just not yet. When you're stood at the summit of your mountain, just imagine the view! Keep on keeping on my friend - we're all here for you.
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