rosietheriviter Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 My live-in boyfriend of 4 years (and step-parent of my 2 small children) tells me he loves me. He is passive aggressive. He sticks around and tells me he is not 100% sure that I am the woman he wants to be involved with for life. He comes back after time off (1 day)and says "I just need some alone time more" or "I just needed sleep", and then says he is not 100% sure when asked why he is acting stand-offish a few days later. I tell him that I cannot continue to be with him if he is never sure and that it feels emotionally draining to never know how he is feeling. He says "Lets just talk tomarrow about this", and I tell him that with children involved, he cannot just keep pulling us along, leading us all on. He actually said "excuse me for having feelings, I can't have feelings unless they are the ones you want me to have". I said, "honey, just come back to bed and get some rest". He said "I love you", and I told him to leave. It feels like a game. I am heartbroken right now. I need some help. I am trying to provide stability for my children. i am sure he was my soulmate. How can this be happening? I am scared for their feelings as well. What should I do? Can anyone interperet what is going on?
Surfer203 Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 Sounds a bit like a soap opera. From personal experience I know how painful it is to have some one say to you "I am not totally sure if I want to continue to be with you" - Part of me thinks it is just their way of distancing themselves from you because they are not quite ready to end it yet. Good luck and keep posting.
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