bcisaidso Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 My wife of 5 years, to the day, has just told me last night that she had been having an affair with another man for the last 2+ years. Now this affair hasn't been the sleeping with kind of affair; only kissing. I just want to get some opinions of some of you all out there and let me know what you think the best options for me are. We do have one child, 18 months, together. I really just want to know if this is something that many of you could forgive and move on or if this is something that I should be the one to move on. Any help/advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Ross MwcFan Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I don't mean to make you feel worse, but it seems hard to believe that the affair that your wife has had for 2 years has only involved kissing.
Author bcisaidso Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 I don't mean to make you feel worse, but it seems hard to believe that the affair that your wife has had for 2 years has only involved kissing. Yea I know. That has crossed my mind as well.
collegeguy_24 Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I have to agree, I think she told you it was just kissing so she wouldn't have to admit that she was sleeping with the guy. First things first though, I say get yourself tested for STDs, if she has been sleeping with this guy you need to make sure your in good health. I also think you shouldn't forgive her. I mean 5 year marriage is not a long time, and she was cheating on you three years in. Personally, I think you need to close any bank accounts she has access to, and pack her bags, and tell her to get the hell out. DOn't let her kick you out, you kick her out. If you forgive her now, she will see that you are weak and she will cheat on you again because she will have no respect for you. Period.
vsmini Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I feel awful for even bringing this up, and it might seem very extreme but have you discussed paternity tests? Or is that 100% not even up for discussion or possibility?
collegeguy_24 Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I feel awful for even bringing this up, and it might seem very extreme but have you discussed paternity tests? Or is that 100% not even up for discussion or possibility? Thats a good point, one I didn't even think about.
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