Disillusioned Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 The Sexual Revolution ought to be called the Sexual Devolution because it did a worst-class job of messing things up. Especially for platonics like myself and others. People who treat sex as a trivial commodity just can't understand why IRL dating is just as useless as online dating when it comes to wanting a platonic relationship. Looking back, all my years of dating (and failed attempts thereof) were a waste of time. When I was doing the speed dating thing a few years ago, it never entered my head when I was sitting across from any number of women that a lot of people neither know nor care what "platonic" means. The women at the speed dating parties were probably thinking, "this guy doesn't like alcohol and he doesn't seem interested in trying to get a one-night stand with me, so he doesn't belong on my radar". I think the problem with today's singles scene is that everyone at some point just figured "let George do it" when it came to telling it like it is and treating each other with some empathy. No wonder dating feels like such a fraud.
plasma Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 " dating " imo is just another social activity, if your gonna f*ck no need to " interview" each other, if your looking for a relationship then it should just happen naturally, slowly but no need to meet here, go there, act busy, make pretend your an imaginary character and vice versa. If you think about it, dating is a chore, like we dont have enough things to take care of on a daily basis. call me synical or what have you but thats just my dictionary term of dating
carhill Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 This may seem odd but, reflecting upon many years of dating and other interactions with women, I have few if any negative memories of dating at all. We gave it a shot; either it worked or not. It was the platonic friendships, especially with the Hoovers, which dominate the landscape of unhealthy memories. The bright spot within that group has been the spouses of friends. IDK whether I pick my friends well or their spouses treat me differently because I'm a friend of their spouse, but it's as obvious a positive as those women I've dated. So, moving forward, I think I'll confine my interactions to dating and my friend's spouses. That's enough female contact. I gave them (women) enough of myself for 30+ years. It's time for something different. As you can see, different paths for everyone. YMMV, and evidently has.
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