Says he will call tomorrow -- does not call, but views your match.com profile...

[Chitowngirl]

So lets say you go on a "great" first date with a man from match.com. The date lasts about 7 hours -- with you first meeting at a bar, then going to dinner at a restaurant, and then listening to live music on the beach.

He makes plans for a 2nd date w/in 1 hour of the first date, saying "let's meet tomorrow after work for a casual date *since we work w/in a few blocks of each other.*) I say ok. But the next day I am so hungover and tired from our date before that I ask if we can reschedule for Thursday. He said he can't Thursday but says Friday would be good, and that he would call me tomorrow to catch up. Ok, great!

Tomorrow comes and no text, no call. It's 10pm. I check my match.com account and... HE VIEWED ME. He hasn't logged on in 5 days. But he viewed me tonight, the night he was supposed to call me...but no call or text from him.

 

What would you think? Was he not interested? Would you think he was "too busy with work or kids to call me like he said?" ...?????

 

I read "He's Just Not That Into You" and I believe if a guy really likes you, he will call you when he says he will, no matter what...especially if he has time to check my profile on match.

 

Am I being stupid? Or smart thinking he really doesn't like me much since he viewed my profile but didn't call me like he said he would?

[Art_Critic]

He obviously took YOU breaking the date that was set as a rejection and thinks you are not interested.

[Star Gazer]

He obviously took YOU breaking the date that was set as a rejection and thinks you are not interested.

 

I tend to agree with this. If/when I break a date - even for provable/totally justifiable reasons and he *acts* totally cool with rescheduling - I tend to go a lil' above and beyond to make sure he knows I'm still interested. In this instance, I would have called him.

[Anxiety]

I don't think he would have viewed your profile again if he wasn't interested.

[NoReallyThatHappened]

I think the signals were crossed when you canceled. Pick up the phone and call him and make sure he knows you are interested. There are a lot of flakes online so he may think you are trying to flake out on him.

 

The worst that can happen is he doesn't answer or return your call. Either way, you'll have an answer about what he's thinking!

[ConfusedGuy28]

Call him up. Us guys do find it incredibly attractive when a woman takes any sort of initiative. It shows us we're not chasing and just maybe have a chance of strolling next to someone instead lol

[NoReallyThatHappened]

Call him up. Us guys do find it incredibly attractive when a woman takes any sort of initiative. It shows us we're not chasing and just maybe have a chance of strolling next to someone instead lol

 

I did this with my current BF. I decided I was acting way to nonchalant about the whole thing and not giving out the "OMG I'm so into you!" vibe. I gave myself a whopper of a pep talk and called him. Obviously it was a good move since we are still together.