Unadulterated Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 (edited) My first post ever here, wish it could be a happier one. Found this site soon after I broke up with my ex last week (who had been cheating on me emotionally with at least one person she met online) and was reading stories to help me cope. However, today she got back in contact with me after I'd been avoiding her all week, opening fresh wounds...she didn't want to apoligize, or scold, and as far as I know she doesn't want me back or anything, she just told me some things from her side that I hadn't known before that, if she's telling the truth, could mean I was wrong about her cheating. The problem is, I got in contact with the person I think she cheated with, who tells a completely different story, and I've seen some exchanges between them both before and after I broke up with her. It's all very hard to explain...so I'll keep it short and neat. I'd be very appreciative if you could be the judge to help me decide who and what to believe. Him= What I've been told by him (the other guy) Her= What I've been told by her General= Things I know for sure General: -I've looked at her phone twice, once from before and once after the broke up. Before, I saw a picture of his privates saved in her photos, saw she had sent him a picture of her cleavage, and there were some gaps here and there and some suspicious texts, but nothing condemning. -Ex has never been very open, when I confronted her right before the break up about what I'd seen she just went silent for the rest of the night before leaving. -She had phone sex with the guy (and maybe some other person she met online), but AFTER we broke up. -She was planning on meeting up with the guy in the summer, dunno if she cancelled this or not. -Took her about a day to get over me before I saw her hanging with some person she met online. They've also never met, but I think they're falling apart already. Him: -He says she started it all...she asked for a picture of his privates, sent him the pic of her, and after the break up she begged him for phone sex. Hinted at a little something before the break up too. -Guy has been friends with her for 2 years, though I don't think they've ever met. He clearly likes her, but just so he can get his rocks off since all the other girls he likes reject him. -While he admits to phone sex and the pics, he says he wasn't planning anything if they met up. -Havn't been able to contact him since the break up. Her: -She didn't start anything, it was all him. He randomly sent a picture of his junk one day. She sent him a picture of her cleavage since she was sorry about constantly rejecting his advances for at least a year and figured he deserved at least that. -Constantly denies ever sexting him. Never believed her at first, but she still sticks to it even after the break up. She does admit to phone sex after the break up, but only because she wanted someone to comfort her. -Up until the break up she said she loved only me every day, said she wanted only me. Though some suspicious texts were sent on those days so...not sure what to believe about that. -They did nothing but phone sex after the break up, and she realized she saw him as nothing more than a friend and cut it off. -Says she hasn't done anything with the new person. That's all that comes to mind, sorry if it was too long. If I left out anything important, point it out and I'll try and remember. I don't have any interest in her at this time, and she doesn't appear to want me either, but at the very least I want to be able to know the real story. Thanks in advance. Edited June 1, 2011 by Unadulterated Additional details under 'her'
Bryanp Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 From what you have written I think you would be a fool to believe anything she said. She is a player and a liar.
rafallus Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Yeah, doesn't matter. I'd just assume the worst and cut the contact.
Scorpio6913 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Apparently Unadulterated broke up with her though. That's normal behavior. Is she a cheater... I'm not sure. But from above, it doesn't sound like it. Personally, it sounds like she's not really into the other man, but I could be wrong. Unadulterated - Why did you break up with her? She "Is" a cheater, I would've dumped her too! Stay away from her O.P., you don't need that garbage of a so called "Girlfriend"!
Author Unadulterated Posted June 4, 2011 Author Posted June 4, 2011 Geez, 2 days without posts and then several in one. Well, worth the wait. Apparently Unadulterated broke up with her though. That's normal behavior. Is she a cheater... I'm not sure. But from above, it doesn't sound like it. Personally, it sounds like she's not really into the other man, but I could be wrong. Unadulterated - Why did you break up with her? I want to say I trusted her, but in the past few months she'd gotten a lieing habit. Started with little white lies and then blew into this possibly huge lie. I just couldn't take it anymore. Plus she was acting a little mopey around me, sometimes borderline depressed, which I took as a big red flag.
Author Unadulterated Posted June 4, 2011 Author Posted June 4, 2011 Dude This girl sounds slutty. If you fancy slutty girls and if you don't mind that she cheats on you go ahead and keep her. I personally don't like the concept that she has a photo of this guy's penis and the phone sex. Perhaps he also ****ed her. Otherwise, I suggest you dump her right away. Well, already dumped as of now, so... I have to admit that if she did stuff online I'd be fine with, on the condition she lets me know who and what she sees/does. And I told her this. But she made it a secretive deal and now we have this big mess. Right now I'm thinking good riddance, but when I see her I get hurt so bad...just want to feel close to her again. Also, I know she hasn't had sex with the guy, too far away for that. But I heard they were trying to get together
rafallus Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 Take guy's side, he has no business lying to you. She, on the other hand... All in all it shouldn't matter either way, as your ex is no good.
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