thomasb Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 That is the only way I would have left my wife. I still wouldn't have been with OW after she showed what a nutcase she was.
Bluebelle38 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 #2 claim that I'm tired of. People who claim that the MM only stays married for money, or kids, or whatever. If we are to accept that some affairs work out, why can't some people accept that the MM just may actually love his wife? Now, I'm sure there are those (MM and BW) who stay married for reasons other than love. But, isn't it possible that love is the reason they stay married? Yes, possibly he does have to screw another woman and tell her he loves her too, to know how much he truly does love his poor wife.
Author herenow Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Yes, possibly he does have to screw another woman and tell her he loves her too, to know how much he truly does love his poor wife. Yes, I'm sure there are cases where you are 100% correct. I'm sure there are MM out there who don't realized how much they love their BW until they get a chance to "screw another woman". Maybe that is what it takes to get some MM to realize how good they have it at home. Thanks for another POV.
fooled once Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 posters claiming that people think "affairs NEVER work out". No one ever said that they NEVER work out. It is very clear based on facts, that some affairs DO work out. However, based on fact, MOST don't. Most cause pain to both the OW and the BW (assuming both know the affair exists). What we talk about most on this board are the ones that don't work out. Does that mean we never talk about the ones that do? Does that mean we think they never work out? Of course not. Many of us have been very clear that we know affairs can work out. But, for some reason, there are those that continue to post that we just can't admit it. Some people get hit by lightening or win the lottery, most don't. Does that mean those things don't happen? No, it does not. So, once and for all, AFFAIRS SOMETIMES DO WORK OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm happy for those who have happy endings. Can we now move pasted this very obvious fact and accept that everyone knows that some affairs do work out? Thank you. I could kiss you for stating what so many fail to understand and read . Thank you!! And Bluebell, great posts!!
waytogo Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 There's a phrase, 'when a man wants to do something, he does it. When he doesn't, he makes excuses.' It would be great if every MM would consider that and decide what he really wants and why he makes excuses for every other choice.
N.A. Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 IMHO: There are many different types of affairs as there are types of ice cream! The affairs that work out seem to be the ones where the MM/MW was genuinely in a horrible, miserable, unfulfilled marriage. There can be many reasons why one person falls out of love with another or why they fall out of love with each other, but it happens. Where you don't see an affair working are the instances where the MM/MW has issues that cause them not only to be unhappy in their marriage, but with their self and life in general. How can someone work out a marriage/relationship with an AP if they can't fix their self?
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