simpsonic Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 I've been told that saying something like "Can we talk?" puts the other person on the defensive...so what's the best way to approach this? A little background story: I've been seeing this guy for almost four months long distance and I have no idea where we stand. I want to clarify the kind of relationship that we have.
Cee Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Call him or Skype him and start of with regular chit chat. Then delve into the relationship issue. There's no need to put him on the defensive with "Let's talk." Simply start talking. If he's not available to have a conversation with you, then you already have your answer.
angie16 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 don't bring it up. keep dating others, go on with your life. He will sense the difference and either step it up or he won't. It is totally human nature when someone brings up a big conversation to take the defensive. He knows he has you, make him think he doesn't.
robdrm32 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 don't bring it up. keep dating others, go on with your life. He will sense the difference and either step it up or he won't. It is totally human nature when someone brings up a big conversation to take the defensive. He knows he has you, make him think he doesn't. Don't play this game it will just lead to drama. like Cee said, dont say let's talk or anything like that. after a few mins of normal convo just say "where do we stand?"
angie16 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Don't play this game it will just lead to drama. like Cee said, dont say let's talk or anything like that. after a few mins of normal convo just say "where do we stand?" i dont think it's a game at all. Working on yourself and not putting someone on the spot i think is healthy. she wouldn't be wondering where they stand if he made her feel that things were on the right track. Your gut is rarely wrong.
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