zoneguy Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 (edited) Hey everyone I'm new here nice to meet you all. A few things have happened regarding a girl I was interested in and I feel really terrible I'm a student teacher (27) and as part of my course I have been doing work placements at a local school (I just finished). From early on there was a teacher there whom I was very attracted to but then again any guy would have been.. she was very attractve. Well any way she gradually started approaching, talking and being friendly to me with no initiation at all from my side and this became more and more frequent. On the third last day of my placement she started getting even friendlier. She came into my room just to talk to me and we chatted about everything and anything. She said I should come into her room and chat to her sometimes and once my placement is done I should come back and see everyone etc. I'm pretty hopeless with signs but it seemed pretty obvious that she was interested in me atleast to some degree. The next day was my 2nd last day and because of various circumstances my last day was going to be a week after this day. I saw her in the morning in the staff room and everything seemed normal. Obviously as I was leaving for good soon I really wanted to ask this girl out and as she seemed interested I thought I was in with a good chance. At the end of the day I was in 2 minds whether to ask her out then or wait until the end of my final placement day the next week. In the end I figured that it was my second last day and I wasn't going to see her for another whole week so I bit the bullet, walked into her classroom, chatted for a bit and asked her out. She gave me her number and despite me being a bit nervous I thought everything went pretty well. A couple of days later I sent her a non threatening sms asking if she wanted to catch up for a coffee the next night. That was 4 days ago and I haven't heard anything since . I was a bit worried as today was the last day of placement and I thought it would be awkward if we crossed paths but she was absent! Maybe I am being paranoid but I have a feeling she took the day off because she knew that today was my last and didn't want to see me . I Just feel pretty upset about the whole thing.. Maybe I should have waited until the end of my placement to ask her out I don't know.. It seemed like a good idea at the time to ask when I did. Having to wait a week to ask her out at that point seemed a long time away and I thought she could have been busy that day or something and I would have been kicking myself for not asking her the week before.. But maybe what I did left her in an awkward poisition as I still had a day to go the next week. Maybe I asked her for her number and texted her too soon? Was I too Eager? Did I really do much wrong? Did I do enough for her to not reply to me and to not attend school because of me? Surely if she liked me that stuff wouldnt matter too much would it? Or have I really just stuffed the whole thing up and creeped her out? Could she just have been playing with my head all along?.. I'm so confused. What do you think ladies? Thanks Edited June 1, 2011 by zoneguy
Badenov Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 You definately didn't do anything wrong. If she wasn't interested, it's her fault for sending you the wrong signals, and more so since she said yes gave you her number. What guy wouldn't think that? You waited a couple of days, you made it casual, you didn't chase her. You're ok, dude. Just a guess, but it sounds like she got cold feet.
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I think you messed up by not being aggressive enough. What's with people asking for numbers these days and then sending text messages instead of calling??
Author zoneguy Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 You definately didn't do anything wrong. If she wasn't interested, it's her fault for sending you the wrong signals, and more so since she said yes gave you her number. What guy wouldn't think that? You waited a couple of days, you made it casual, you didn't chase her. You're ok, dude. Just a guess, but it sounds like she got cold feet. Thanks for the reply. You made me feel a bit better and that it wasn't my fault.
Author zoneguy Posted June 2, 2011 Author Posted June 2, 2011 I think you messed up by not being aggressive enough. What's with people asking for numbers these days and then sending text messages instead of calling?? I see your point. I didn't call because I thought it may have been too confronting or something I don't know. Maybe in hindsight I should have just called... But if she liked me surely sending a text instead or calling wouldn't make too much of a difference or would it....
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 2, 2011 Posted June 2, 2011 I would say that 100% of people who own a phone know how to answer a phone call. A significantly smaller percentage of people who own a phone know how to use/care to use text messaging.
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