hill Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Is there a way to cure this in a 22 year old guy? MY old post is here. I really really love this guy and he basically is flat out afraid of commitment. But he says he doesn't even want to go out and date/hook up with other girls or anything like that. He's just freaked out by the commitment. Is there a way I can help him through this? His exact words: "It freaks me out being committed because that's added pressure I'd feel guilty if I messed up" WHat can I do??? It hurts me to think I might have to move on..... I love this guy so so much what's wrong with me that he doesn't wanna commit?!
Mack05 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Hill, I feel for you I really do. Some people are very mature at 22 and sometimes are ready to settle down into a committed relationship. Other people feel 22 is too young to settle down and they feel they want to live their lives first before settling down. I think you need to trust your heart and instincts on this one.
Kodo Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 From what you've just said, it sounds like he's afraid of the formality? He'd never ask you to marry him (out of fear) but he'd still be with you?
Author hill Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 I really don't know :/ This is him and I's first real relationship and first loves...pretty much first everything. Idk... I know he still loves me, he keep treating me nicely when I see him and all that stuff, the way a boyfriend would.... Idk when I first got into the relationship with him I said I didn't want to be with him if he was going to have a commitment issue and after one year he'd break up with me. His exact words were "Nooooo I don't have a time line for this at all, I'm really just ready to settle down." Not that I thought OH I'm gonna marry him. But I thought this was going to be more than a year and half.... It sucks he did what I told him what I was afraid of.... I never imagined us breaking up so soon...
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