Spooky5785 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Long Story (so everything is understood): Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 4 years now off and on. When we first got together (July 2007) she was the greatest person I had ever met and I couldn't resist being with her. The only problem was that I had just gotten out of horrible relationship 2 months prior to getting involved with her, and I didn't really feel as strongly about her as she did me at the time because of the damage done in the previous relationship. Around fall of 2008 she moved out of state with her mother but it was still within reasonable driving distance. However, my car had just broken down so I had no transportation to go and spend time with her. She sent me emails all the time and always told me how much she missed me. The distance and my mentality at the time started to get to me though as our communication started to break down and I cheated on her. It was the first time I had ever cheated on anyone and I felt horrible. She still stayed with me after finding out and we agreed to start over. Over the course of the next couple months, however, things started to decline rapidly with us. She gradually became more and more cruel and insulting and we broke up and got back together repeated amounts of times. The sad part for me was that I was now deeply in love with her. Finally in December of 2009 I had to end it because we basically had no relationship anymore and she started talking to another guy. I was staying with her at the time and I left and went and stayed with my parents until I could find my own place. Around march of 2010 (after her fling with this other guy) she texted me and told me she missed me and that she would cry herself to sleep over it. We started being intimate again but never got back together. By this time she was a totally different person from who I had originally gotten with. She kind of lead me on for about 2 months and never gave me an answer as to if she wanted to be together again or not. Needless to say I quit talking to her and another girl came into my life. I was only with the girl for about 2 weeks and right when she (the girl that this about) found out I was with someone else she started messaging me telling me she wanted me back for sure. It didn't work out with me and the other girl so me and her got back together. (July 2010) Since then we've been together and last month I broke up with her because it seems like everything is one sided in our relationship (Everything has to be her way). After that she continued to call and text me asking if we could still work it out. We got back together and then broke up again out of my frustration with her attitude. Now I feel bad. lol. so I asked her back and she said she'd be with me but she's not putting up with my stuff anymore. Is it worth it? Does she still love me or she just with me for a fall back plan/emotional crutch?
Pianiste Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 I'd say it's not worth it. I don't see you two breaking the on/off-pattern any time soon. Also if she makes demands like that prior to the relationship I doubt it's really love she feels.
Author Spooky5785 Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Thank you...your probably right. I'm probably wasting my time but she claims she still loves me and there again she never lied to me about that...ever. Maybe she doesn't even understand what love really is. Idk but we are already back to together again so I'm just going to try my hardest to be good to her and if she doesn't respond to the treatment I'm going to leave her alone once and for all.
vsmini Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Maybe the both of you don't understand what love really is. Love is not feeling bad and then taking someone back. Live and learn and most of us have been there but I don't think this is a good match - way too much on again/off again business going on.
Author Spooky5785 Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Well if I didn't love her I wouldn't feel bad in the first place. Trust me...but your right about the on and off stuff. We are complete opposites and they say that opposites attract but they definitely don't last in the long run.
vsmini Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Well if I didn't love her I wouldn't feel bad in the first place. Trust me...but your right about the on and off stuff. We are complete opposites and they say that opposites attract but they definitely don't last in the long run. Ehhhh I have to disagree with you - I don't know your particular situation but don't equate feeling bad and not wanting to hurt someone's feelings for love. Not feeling bad when hurting someone's feelings makes someone a jerk but it doesn't guarantee love. I guess that's really not the point but...you know what I mean.
Author Spooky5785 Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Yeah I can see what you mean and you might be right. Neither one of us might know what love is. We both come from broken homes so that could attribute to it, but I really feel strongly about this girl...weither it's love or just some twisted version of it. How I know I feel so strongly is because all I want is for her to be happy. I don't care weither or not we are together as much but she comes back to me everytime. However, this is the last straw so to speak and neither one of us want to hurt each other again. We both want each other to be happy or least I want her to be.
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