enigma04 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 I'm a 35-year-old female and I've been with my boyfriend for over two years. I enjoy sex, but need to be stimulated--whether by hand, mouth, or vibrator--to really enjoy it. When we have sex, sometimes there is foreplay, but not all the time. When there hasn't been any foreplay, I tell him that I want him to stimulate me, that it helps me get excited, makes me feel like my needs are being met as well. Sometimes he'll do it when he realizes I'm annoyed or he'll do just enough to get me wet. Other times I'll get heavy resistance from him, especially when he wants a quickie. He gets excited quickly and seems to just want to get to it, but I usually need more help getting as excited. Sex does not feel good to me without some type of stimulation and I've mentioned this to him several times. I've never experienced this with previous relationships, so naturally this bothers me a lot. When I'm not stimulated, I pretty much just go through the motions, with said action sometimes leading to a stern talk where I end up feeling bad about what I've done. But, at the same time, why should I feel bad when he gets to have an orgasm most times during sex and I'm left to ask to be stimulated?! We see each other on the weekends, so I realize there's some pent-up sexual tension to be released...but it goes both ways. I want to please him, and right now I don't know if I'm asking for too much with foreplay and being stimulated. I'm interested in getting different views on this. Thanks in advance.
Sivok Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Anyone who knows much about sex should be aware that a woman usually requires a good foreplay session beforehand. He's being a selfish lover - you have nothing to feel bad about.
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