Completely Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Are there a lot of people who are going through a situation where their partner is going through a divorce. Anyone in that situation? Advise, tips, etc. Thanks
PegNosePete Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 There are a lot of them, yes. Bu I am not one. I am going through divorce and I would not dream of starting another relationship until it's all sorted. My advice: put it on hold until it's all done. Seriously.
carhill Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Advise, tips, etc. Entertain other potentials. Resist focusing on any one person who is still emotionally and legally tangled with another. Verify. Review court records. Visit separate domiciles. Look for commonalities and patterns of behavior which indicate emotional, fiscal and financial detachment from the M. Invest slowly. Watch for balance. Divorce is a time, for many, right up there with death. Anger and grief and loss. Difficult time. People often reach out for others, not because of sincere love and care, but rather as a life preserver. Welcome to LS
Author Completely Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 I think that it is completely healthy to be in a relationship while going through a divorce. I understand previous replies, but to me it is more about finding a way to be a good partner, and to support my girlfriend as she faces this nightmare divorce. And hers is a really nasty one, so if we can get through it, certainly others can. And it is about love, lot being a life preserver as one reply wrote. I hope I do not get banned from this forum for posting a link, but there is a website I found for people in my situation which has helped me. Most people do react like replies, but this information helped me a lot, so if your partner is divorcing, you might want to have a look. the address is http://www.loveinthetimeofdivorce.org Thanks for your replies. It is not easy at the moment.
carhill Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Bryan will happy for this free advertising since the web site is so new. Hope things work out!
Author Completely Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Why do you say that divorce is like a time of death? I understand the point, but is it not also a time of rebirth. if a situation is bad, why would removing yourself from it be equated with death? People who stay in situations that are negative and unhealthy are living a nightmare worse then death. I guess all situations are different, I was posting and responding to my own, so I'll take whatever advise is out there. As long as it is positive. I appreciate your responses, and this forum seems like a great place. Glad I stumbled across it. There is really very little info out there for people in my situation. Thanks
carhill Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Well, let's put it this way. My mother died last year, after a long mental illness, and my wife divorced me last year. I compared and you have the result. EOS.
ssdksd Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I think that it is completely healthy to be in a relationship while going through a divorce. I understand previous replies, but to me it is more about finding a way to be a good partner, and to support my girlfriend as she faces this nightmare divorce. And hers is a really nasty one, so if we can get through it, certainly others can. And it is about love, lot being a life preserver as one reply wrote. I hope I do not get banned from this forum for posting a link, but there is a website I found for people in my situation which has helped me. Most people do react like replies, but this information helped me a lot, so if your partner is divorcing, you might want to have a look. the address is http://www.loveinthetimeofdivorce.org Thanks for your replies. It is not easy at the moment. I am currently going threw this with my boyfriend and it is not easy at all but I am going to support him threw all of it no matter what..his is pretty nasty as well..my biggest fear in all of it was he would go back to her or that he really was not going to divorce her and until I saw an email from his attorney I was not secure but now I am...
ZombieBarbie Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I once dated a guy who was going through a divorce and it was awful. All he talked about was his ex wife, and how much he hated her. I was also compared to her. The best thing you can do, is NOT start another relationship and just have fun for awhile. It will be best for you and the person you end up with when you are ready to move on.
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