Lucky555 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 So As a refresher if u didnt read my last post my boyfriend of 6 months 1. Has not introduced me to friends and family 2. Has not taken me on a real date in 3 months. Usually he said it was too cold outside for a walk. So I was fine with it until now the weather is great but still no date! 3. I send little sweet messages maybe once a day. Or every other day. He just does a "lol" 4. He has not said I love you or I miss you. 5. I drive to see him and I make food so we save money but it does cost me! 6. He won't let me stay a weekend he always has plans made. 7. We onle see each other once a week. So I spoke about how he brushed me off last week.update: that same night he invited me over. He told me he was just so exhausted he just wanted to sleep. I figured to go over and see him in person and see what I could work out. Well it was great and I told him what I thought and we listened to each other but then I got some more news! 8. He has almost a million dollars "in debt" that he plans on making back. However with our economy it doesn't look promising to me. People are out of jobs and they can't afford to buy his investments! So I want marriage and kids! How is this going to affect my future!! I am a bit worried about this. So I left his place happy once again..then today I sent him a sweet message and he lashes out at me saying " it's too much!" I told him simply have a nice day and kiss. He said " kiss" was too much. What!! So I aske him about it later and he said he didn't know why he felt that way! I smell bs!! I'm feeling him out to see where this relationship is going because as my list indicates it's not too serious for him! He told me last weekend I was talking nonsense about him not being interested in me. He was extra attentive then boom my "kiss" via message was too much. So really this guy is acting like a complete jerk!! I bluntly told him he was absurd and that he needed to think about being in a relationship with me! So yup I'm telling him if this is not a "real relatinship" to him I'm leaving! So now I'm fine. It's just I thought it could go somewhere but I gathered my common sense and my feelings and I'm ready for whatever is next. I think we take a gamble on relationships and sometimes they either will sail into the sunset or sink. I'm hoping to get a clear answer tonight. I'm looking to see changes : 1. More romance 2. More dates 3. Introduction to family and seriousness! But I want him to want this of he doesn feel this way by now I'm wasting my time. Even though he has so much debt I was willing to risk it for love but we will see So anyone tell me if this is best or too forward? I think 6 months is a good time to see if I continue investing my time money and energy!
Janesays Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 You're wasting your time. Even if he was willing to call what you two have a 'relationship,' it doesn't sound like a happy one. I'd move on.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 You're wasting your time. Even if he was willing to call what you two have a 'relationship,' it doesn't sound like a happy one. I'd move on. Ya that's what I'm thinking too! He has asked me to move in with him once I find a new job but I'm looking at this relationship now and I want love before I decide to make a huge leap like that! I feel like if this is how I is when i With him then it would be horrible! A person who wants me to move in with them can't tolerate a message saying "kiss"?!!! So weird!
Cee Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 His investment business is 1 million dollars in the hole. And I presume he wouldn't debase himself by taking a salaried job in a company. And he's too broke and lazy to take you on a proper date. And doesn't treat you in a loving manner. This sounds like a nightmare. I'd dump this guy.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Ya he is broke. I understand and he does have a regular job but doesn't make a lot of money...He has actually dodged me insteadof talking about "us" tonight! He knows I mean business. Really I know he will make up an excuse tomorrow. It's a big deal to me about where this thing is headed after so long. I'm becoming less attracted to him due to lack or emotional aspects when we are apart and the lack of romance. I just feel used. He had never once cooked for me either. I would usually have to get done my stuff and then cook our meal then travel to see him! While he just sits waiting for me watching tv! At first I enjoyed cooking and now Im just fed up! I will stay with him till the next day and then he has plans. He never takes a whole day with me! Why ask me live with him if he can't be with me or miss me??? So I'm not going to worry I will just be single in my mind it's the only way to cope because someone who loves me wouldn't treat me this way!
Cloud Logic Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 I got about half way through reading before realizing how pointless this 'relationship' appears to be. Posting multiple threads on one relationship with problems doesn't look positive in anyway. Best of luck with whatever you choose.
D-Lish Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 I got about half way through reading before realizing how pointless this 'relationship' appears to be. Posting multiple threads on one relationship with problems doesn't look positive in anyway. Best of luck with whatever you choose. Agreed CL. There is nothing positive about this arrangement. At some point you have to turn the question inward and ask yourself what the heck is going on within "you" that you'd accept this kind of treatment.
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