Decorative Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 I'm sure, but I don't have to think of that because what's she to do with me? Exactly. Agreed. It's no different than the man Linda Eastman married: a depressed, shattered, broken man who had separated, not from a woman, but from his band The Beatles. And...she loved him back to life. Point me in that direction. I really don't understand why someone holds on to someone whom you KNOW is not behaving according to your ideal standards. What is that about?? I don't have to feel sorry for her. Well, when you build a castle made of sand, what do you expect? I see him doing that, and it hurts me. I don't like to see him scared he might "get in trouble". Sounds like a very difficult time... He'll be alright I do. I think about it. I think how peaceful my life is, how he fulfills me more as a part time lover than any full timer ever has... I think that's part of what's going on because she brings home all the bacon. But...he could be so comfortable with me. But then I wonder: what's he doing when I'm not home...? Nothing to be taken lightly indeed. I think that's why he's dropping hints. There is a lot to be taken into consideration. What is the cure to that? Every relationship is different... This is where I need to come to peace with. This is exactly the area I need to bring healing to in my psyche. ...careful what we wish for. Thank you. You cannot love someone into being different than they are. Linda Eastman did not save Paul McCartney. Healthy, mature partners are complete on their own. They don't need rescuing. 8
Any Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Just out of curiosity during your "break up" time did you communicate? Did you always intend to get back together and just giving him a little space to digest his divorce or were you truly broken up? I'm just wondering MM got busted 3 days ago and since then has not spoken to me. I'm not sure i want him to call but the two people in my life who know about the affair(both who think it would be better if I never hear from him again) say there is no way he will stay away for long.
Author Anna101 Posted March 20, 2013 Author Posted March 20, 2013 Sorry Any, didn't see your question at the time. Yes we communicated in our break time time as we had a newborn together so 'had' to. But as far as I knew (and him I presume) we were broken up. He took a lot of his anger out on me but frankly he was half insane during that time, just no logic whatsoever. It helped me to not feel so bad to be honest because he was so unlikeable!
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