Rello55 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Well me and my ex gf of 3.5 years break up about 6 months ago and after a month she started dating another guy which all and all had me hurt so i didnt know what to do and like any guy would do which is panic and constantly text and call their ex to try to change her mind which obviously didnt work so i tried NC which lasted about 2.5 months and it helped me quickly and im in a much better mood now i dnt even hate her anymore for what she did at all i would say we are good now no grudges held i also improved myself during the 2.5 months just so i could look better (p.s there wasnt anything wrong with me before this happened i still had good looks lol) like got a new haircut which i will be getting from now on things like that but anyway my ex called me for the 1st time in 2.5 months Saturday but i was busy you know just outside hanging out with friends so i couldnt talk bcuz i just wantd to have fun which i kno she knew i was out partying bcuz she heard the music in the background but i told her i was going to call her back but i never did bcuz i was so caught up in the moment i didnt call her the next day either but she eventually called me the next night and we talked for about an hour she sounded so happy to talk to me we laughd just talked like we usually did when we were together. then she asked about my love life which didnt mess up the conversion i just didnt want to tell her any of my business bcuz she was just my ex after our phone convo ended she textd me and wantd to start another convo but i keep it very very short like 2 texts between each other and that was it then she called again 2day i also keep the phone convo short bcuz i was busy doing the last of my schoolwork but during the convo she said she was going to stop by my house 2day to see me (which im basically home alone for 5 - 6 hrs a day) but all im trying to say is i kno ma ex really misses me now she just shows all of the signs i just think she doesnt know how to really end her relationship bcuz i ended the relationship 6months ago bcuz i was being a ******* which dudes are sometime but i wouldnt mind trying again i mean hey i lifed the single life its great! but thats my 1st love it gets complicated with 1st loves i just wanted to know from females what do you think or males that know know someone thats in this situation or have been in this situation p.s i really dont want to hear anything like she's playing with you or move on bcuz i know about all of that already just need some tips on what to do stay NC or go LC for a little while
ThatBwoii Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Avoid what caused the first breakup at all costs, and eep past conversations brief.
Author Rello55 Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 The cause was my fault drunk bfs man lol just but i am keeping the convos short i just wanted to know if she misses me but doesnt want to tell me females are confusing though
sinnister Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 (edited) Here, it's really about what you want. Don't ask to get back together...she will eventually to lock you down again. You, with NC, have shifted the ball back into your court. You didn't melt down and you kept growing..which made/kept you attractive. Good f--king job my man! I mean now it's really what you want....just treat her like you did when you thought she was a potential r/s. If you want to date others..keep dating others..you're under no obligations for s--t until she says so. But don't shift the power back by asking to be exclusive. And I've been here...I know this last crisis has lost a bunch of cred for me lol. She is getting ready to jump you again. Just play it as cool as you have...keep the convos as brief as they've been..but not a time clock or she'll get wise...just act like you have a life outside of her to get off the phone/texting. She'll want to be a part of that life or respect u for having one. Good luck..but she is DEFINITELY thinking about u. Edited June 1, 2011 by sinnister
Author Rello55 Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Thanks its good to hear that im doing the right thing but i agree with you it is up to me and im gaining alot of power back and eventually it will be my decision on getting back together or not and i will keep it cool not getting too hyped about everything
MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 I would say stay NC until she's showing you an actual change and that she wants to be with you (since thats what it seems like you want)...talking to you is nothing. she did that before and dated another dude...
Author Rello55 Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Dats wat i decided 2 do but its not like i told her i want us 2get back 2gether im not saying any of that like i said in the thread she givin me signs that she does miss me etc im jus really doin nun til she brings it up n with her still datin dat other dude we werent 2getha its not like she jus left me out the blue shes showing me now that she misses me n thinking about me but im still not making any steps toward us being 2gether again
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