Nohbody Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I'm an idiot, I know. I broke NC to send the message (via email) that I said some things I shouldn't have during the breakup, that I love her, and for her to be free and be safe. I don't think I'll get a reply... and suddenly I don't think I care anymore. I feel like I just let a big piece of her go... and I think I'm doing all right for now.
Exit Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Hm, well, no changing what you did now. It's good if you feel okay with it at the moment. Hopefully as time goes by and she maybe doesn't respond, it won't start to drag you back down and make you feel bad and prevent you from healing. Or hopefully she won't reply with something hurtful. I'm a hopeless romantic, I usually lean towards the whole "give contact a try, what have you got to lose, you'll feel better knowing you tried", so I think what you did is OK, but when something is really starting to appear hopeless, I do know the value of NC. So you fired off a message, maybe something will happen, maybe it won't, maybe she'll read it and months down the line she'll think about it and get in touch, you just don't know. But don't let this start a landslide of more and more contact. You send it and you feel okay, just let it be for now.
flitzanu Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 so now 30 minutes later, are you starting to obsess over if she is going to reply now??
Author Nohbody Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 Still doing ok. I guess the NC calendar has been reset to 0, but otherwise I feel good. Only 12 more days until BOSS!
Trovador Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Well, she is happy now knowing that her puppy is still at her beck and call... But don't worry, we all have done that... Except that TODAY I am not picking the phone to call her even if my life depended on it... but don't the wrong impression, she is not that important, just stating how things are now...
Author Nohbody Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 Granted, she'll have to beck and call pretty hard at this point, but you're right;)
stopthemadness Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I'm an idiot, I know. I broke NC to send the message (via email) that I said some things I shouldn't have during the breakup, that I love her, and for her to be free and be safe. I don't think I'll get a reply... and suddenly I don't think I care anymore. I feel like I just let a big piece of her go... and I think I'm doing all right for now. Ya I agree with everyone else. That WAS a really bad idea. But like my therapist used to say, dont beat your self up for stuff you've already done.BUT just dont do it again. Ya she probably looked at it saw it was you and thought ya he still wants me. Try to stay strong on the no contact rule. Post here in stead or go on the chat line on here. I used to go on there alot a first. Its called On line chatting to cope. I didnt contact my ex, after 4 months went by. It was him reaching out to me. Ya, crazy huh after breaking my heart and all!!! But I didnt take his calls and didnt respond to him emails..Then one day ya!! He came to my door. I told my daughter to tell him NO I dont wanta talk to him. The rest is a long story, but how it ends up is..NO we are not talking now BECAUSE I say so!! Cool huh? JUst stay on the NO/Contact thing. its worth it.
flitzanu Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 It's only been a week? Oh crap. was i right? now you're obsessing over wanting a reply? i've been there buddy. you think you need to get it off your chest and don't expect a response...but then 5 minutes later that's all you can think about. that's why it's often best to keep our collective mouths shut.
Author Nohbody Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 My perception of time has apparently dilated. I don't think she's going to respond any time soon... but I can't shake the idea that she will be back.
Shadowburn Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Hang in there. It is best not to break NC as not to expose yourself to more rejection (is it not bad enough to be dumped?), but what's done is done. Maybe she blocked you and doesn't even know you emailed her. As far as her coming back...this stupid and totally unbased on reality hope just refuses to die, I know it...and the whole LS knows it:)
Author Nohbody Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 Thanks Shadowburn. You are probably right.
Author Nohbody Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Well, I haven't heard anything in over two months - and I get the feeling more and more that this is not, in fact, going to miraculously work out. Feel like a hollowed out wreck - but I just got a pell grant for almost 3k, and school starts in four weeks or so. Kayaking starts next week. Life could be worse, and this song makes me grin, at least toward the end.
flitzanu Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 hang in there bro. no trite phrases here, but just keep your head up.
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