northstarr Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 How can a man stare at you from afar with that "look" in his eyes-girls you know what I mean- wave you down when you pass, ignore who he's talking to to reach out and stroke your arm and smile. Show up where you are on the work premises, etc, etc. for three months and NOT MAKE A MOVE? He's 50 + years old and I'm 14 yrs. younger. Am I just imagining things? Taking into account the fact that he may have work and personal reasons for not making an official move, (I don't blame him- that's damn smart) how do you call him to the mat? He does this with no one else btw as I am a careful observer. Obviously by now I'm intrigued and have smiled back but still nothing. Geez!! A few days ago I created a legitimate class assignment that I "needed" his help on and he has totally ignored my neutral email. But will size me up when I walk through the door in the morning. How do I call him on his actions and get to the bottom of this. If it's nothing, dammit, I can walk off into the sunset, but if it's something, I want to know more about him. Did I mention I love his tender touch when I walk by him? LOL! I just want to know what I can do that can change the dynamics of this---situation! Thanks all!!
Author northstarr Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 Any thoughts, ideas, questions? Wanna throw a dog a bone?
Cee Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I've read your post three times and I don't understand your relationship with this man. Are you friends, acquaintances, or is he your professor? The way you write, it sounds like he's somebody you don't know except on a professional capacity. It sounds like you need to leap outside the professional zone and into the personal. Rather than asking for help on an assignment, how about strike up a conversation about an article you read or a podcast you enjoyed that's not directly related to your school work. One thing to remember, if he's your professor, then you can't date him until you are no longer in his class. He may keep a boundary so not to open himself to sexual harrassment charges. Also, he may be married or going through a divorce, etc. So keep your guard up until you know his story. I hope this helps.
Author northstarr Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 We work for the same organization but in different capacities. I am taking a course that due to his area of expertise, he could help me with. Your answer makes sense. I figure that something is- or maybe- going on in his life. And I guess I am too scared to make a move that would make me look vulnerable and face rejection. (Like everyone else on the LoveShack website.) It may be as simple as asking him to join me for lunch in the cafeteria. I just want to be sure that i am reading his signs correctly and that his "attention" is not just my imagination. He's HOT! LOL!
Lucky555 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 We work for the same organization but in different capacities. I am taking a course that due to his area of expertise, he could help me with. Your answer makes sense. I figure that something is- or maybe- going on in his life. And I guess I am too scared to make a move that would make me look vulnerable and face rejection. (Like everyone else on the LoveShack website.) It may be as simple as asking him to join me for lunch in the cafeteria. I just want to be sure that i am reading his signs correctly and that his "attention" is not just my imagination. He's HOT! LOL! I have found that if a man wants u he will make his move. He won't wait for another man to grab u. Sounds like he is a big flirt just start ignoring him or smile briefly and date other guys . Don't let this dude get to u make him earn it let him chase u.
Author northstarr Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Thanks Lucky. I am a control freak so waiting for someone else to make a move is sooooo hard even though I know that it is the best way to go. Aside from that email, I have gone back to half-ass smiles and lukewarm hellos. I now spend more time talking to his colleagues than to him- they are fun! The hardest part will be to go back to the time when I barely knew he was alive. His staring wore me down and piqued my interest. I just have to go back to being uninterested! Everytime he greets me and I want to smile, I will just have to remember how pissed I was that he ignored my email. Hmph!
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