Bf Doesn't Tell Me He Loves Me After Almost 2 Years!

[xomotoxgirlxo]

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Before me, he dated this girl for 3 ½ years until she cheated and broke up with him. Then we started dating 2 weeks later. I have known him for about 4 years now because he is my brothers friend and we worked at the same place.

 

When we first started dating he would always talk about his ex and what she did. Then a few months into the relationship I started seeing things, like pictures of them at his grandmas house, an old shoe box filled with things from her, naked pictures of her on his phone, pictures of her on his computer and even a pair of her underwear! He deleted the naked pictures immediately after I found them and moved the shoe box into the attic. The pictures of her on his computer are still there even though I have told him a million times to delete them. And with the underwear, well I found those over a year ago and he still hasn't gotten rid of them (they are in the shoe box in the attic.) When I ask him to get rid of the stuff he says all of those memories are out of his head and he doesn't want to bring them back in. He only wants me in his head, but I know that is an excuse.

 

Because of all these circumstances I have acquired this huge amount of jealousy for his ex. I have searched her on google, facebook and myspace. I know soooo much about her and its annoying! His whole entire family say they like me way better and I am in his heart more than I think I am, but he is unable to tell me he loves me. He has not said it once in almost 2 years! I have never been cheated on and I can only imagine what it feels like, but I know he has a wall up because of it and its not fair to me.

 

I love him very much and I guess I am just very unsure about what to do about everything. I feel like he is extremely damaged because of what she did to him in the past.

[Woman In Blue]

Well, I do think you're definitely wasting your time with this guy.

 

Your first mistake was to start dating him only two weeks after what was a pretty devastating breakup for him. He's got ALOT of unresolved issues where his ex-girlfriend is concerned.

 

You're the rebound girl and that's never going to change. We all know the next person in line after someone has experienced a very recent breakup is always the rebound girl or guy - and they're usually doomed no matter what they do.

 

I'd bow out gracefully if I were you. You can't make him feel something he obviously doesn't feel.

[vsmini]

I love him very much and I guess I am just very unsure about what to do about everything. I feel like he is extremely damaged because of what she did to him in the past.

 

 

Honey please - don't go making excuses for him. This always happens - the guy isn't giving you what you want so instead of blaming him you blame the evil and horrible ex.

 

Stop making excuses for him - he doesn't love you...because if he did - he would have said it now. Leave this guy and find the love you want and deserve....and leave that ex out of it.