Syzygypassion Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 (edited) I no longer have any contact with my OM, however live in the same city. Although the liklihood is very low, I find myself imagining how I would react if I were to bump into him, how tense it might be and how difficult it would be to completely ignore him, or likewise how hurt I may feel if he ignored me (I know that this is ridiculous given that I was the one who ended the affair). I know that many affairs are long distance, or once NC has been made it is practically impossible to accidently bump into that person. I am trying to mainatin NC and am not trying to deliberately encounter the OM, just wondering how people would react in this strange scenario. Edited May 31, 2011 by Syzygypassion Typo
Emme Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I think it would show on your face, the shock. Then you might compose yourself and just walk right past him. It's hard to say for every situation is different. Don't beat yourself up, NC is hard. If you need to come here and vent or feel the stress of NC getting to you.. post away.
TigerCub Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I no longer have any contact with my OM, however live in the same city. Although the liklihood is very low, I find myself imagining how I would react if I were to bump into him, how tense it might be and how difficult it would be to completely ignore him, or likewise how hurt I may feel if he ignored me (I know that this is ridiculous given that I was the one who ended the affair). I know that many affairs are long distance, or once NC has been made it is practically impossible to accidently bump into that person. I am trying to mainatin NC and am not trying to deliberately encounter the OM, just wondering how people would react in this strange scenario. hmmmm, how did I handle this....I've seen xMM many times (we work in the same building) - hehe the first time since it totally ended - was actually funny, I ran into him, and by habit I smiled, then I realized who it was I was smilling it and I kinda took my smile back, he noticed that and that wiped the smile right off his face. (its funny cuz that all happened in mere seconds) - after that if I saw him, I'd just look right through him and keep walking past, like he was no one I knew. - The last time I saw him (oh this was awesome), happened just last week...I was walking to the building, his friend bumped into me on the street and we were talking and walking together, I see xMM come out of the main doors, looks in our direction, turns and walks right back in, we reached those same doors in less than 20 seconds, and he was nowhere to be found - hehe, the little bitch actually ran off just to avoid the discomfort he may be feeling - it was a really awesome moment for me, because I've never been the one to hide from him, I don't avoid him - I just don't care when I see him - he's no one special to me - because he was all a lie. So as for you, I don't know how things ended with you xOM, but if you run into him, the first time might be weird cuz it would be a surprise, but hold your head high and just keep going - there's nothin to it.
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