mizzbehavin76502 Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 Confused and Lonely....... My current boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months. He asked me to move in with him after knowing him about a week and a half or so. I of course did. A Little background...... My boyfriend is still married although he was seperated from her when we got together he just hasn't had the money to file for divorce. She really did him wrong and cheated on him while he was fighting in Iraq. But he hadn't been seperated long before we started talking. The Problem.... Now he says he needs his space and I don't really know what he means by that. I wasn't the one that prompted the moving in together. I told him that I would stay there on the weekends and stay else where during the week. We spent the next weekend together and it seemed like everything was okay. He didn't even mention me having to move out at all. Then I went to school that Monday and to my other home that night. He still acting as if everything was okay. I didn't like that. To me everything wasn't okay. This seperation thing is killing me. He says he wants to be with me but he needs his space. I just don't understand. He told me last night that he didn't want to tell me to move out because he didn't want to hurt me. Now I have to wonder if he wants to be with me or if he is just holding on so that he doesn't hurt me. He says he doesn't want to mess this relationship up like he has his past two and that he wants this to work in the future. I am not a patient person and I don't think I can wait around for someone to figure out what they want from me. Now I had been in a very bad relationship 4 months prior to this relationship starting that ended rather badly and actually now that I think about it the whole 2 1/2 years we were together were pretty messed up. He cheated on me left and right. When I was with him I knew deep down that this was happening. I got very insecure. Well now I am thinking that this new boyfriend is cheating on me even though he says he isn't. I don't feel the same feelings that I did before with my ex when he was cheating. I just don't know. I hope that it is my insecurities sneaking up again. I have asked him and he knows that this is weighting on my mind. I just need some advice. I really want this to work. Thanks Carrie
iceprincess Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 Hey, sweetie, sounds like you're the rebound-girlfriend. I'm sure he still has feelings for his wife, but can't trust her anymore because she cheated on him. So you came along...and impusively he asked you to move in after only about a week and a half of knowing you. If you don't want to be hurt anymore, you know what to do. Don't act like everything is okay, when they aren't when you're with him . Try talking to him first and make it clear that you will not submit yourself to a relationship where you're the only one in it. Hope things work out for you. Take care.
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