Sanman Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 (edited) The thing about that is to get that one woman to love and cherish you you need to date around a bit. OR do what the East Indians do and get your family to pick someoe for you. Even then there is no guarantee it will work out. Understand it's a numbers game. That's NOT to say that you should just date utterly random women. Most relationships no matter how auspicious the beginning do not work out. 90% of them. So you have to date 10 women to find one with whom it really works out (as in last to a point of getting married and staying married for a while.... most relationships end well before reaching that point.) True. Actually, many more than 10 women in my case and have dated fairly actively over the years. Then again, I spent most of my younger years foolishly chasing and getting the hottest girl who would date me. I am also known by my friends for my string of crazy exes. But the most recent batch seem to suggest I have matured a bit in my tastes. The current long distance girl looks like a great fit when she moves a lot closer at the end of the month. Though, it is hilarious what some of the guys here think they need to treat a woman to. If you really know the city you can get some great deals. Went out for a date last weekend at bought a woman dinner and checked out a few cool shops. Total cost of the date $36 and only $12 was spent on her. She had a great time and wants to go out with me again. Unfortunately, she doesn't seem like my type (too boring) and I'm not interested in spending more money on her. If we had gone dutch I may have considered date number two just in case I was wrong. Oh well....next! Edited June 1, 2011 by Sanman
Sanman Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 well after reading this thread more i realized a few things,, that it was kind of rude of him because he asked her to go dutch out of nowhere after "appearing" to be financially okay with paying for these dates because what if she only had 2 bucks w/ her at that time, or what if her wallet got stolen, stuff like that. but if she invited him out then she should be ready to shoulder the cost (whole or half). i mean you cant blame the op for expecting since she did try to show him she wants to pay for her share and he adamantly refused. several times. when i was younger, i wouldnt even date if i didnt have a job or money. people would ask me why i didnt have a bf and i'd be like, "cause i dont have enough money to support myself and another person." then they'd be like, well youre not gonna pay for it he is and im like uh no i am. ive gotten kinda used to paying at least the guys gas or the drinks for our meals or pay for the food in movies. It all depends on the delivery I think. I would assume that he would pay if she didn't have the cash and not make it a big deal. Though, I have to appreciate a woman who is willing to bring her fair share to the table Milk Material!
musemaj11 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 (edited) Serious question. Why a lot of women are so repulsed by idea of having to pay for their own meal or movie ticket? First date I agree that the asker should expect to pay for the 'guest'. But after that its rude to expect another person to pay for you. I mean how would you feel if the table were turned? How many women would like men to expect you to pay for them on dates? I bet none because its just rude. people would ask me why i didnt have a bf and i'd be like, "cause i dont have enough money to support myself and another person." then they'd be like, well youre not gonna pay for it he is and im like uh no i am. ive gotten kinda used to paying at least the guys gas or the drinks for our meals or pay for the food in movies. You sound like a considerate person. I have a friend who always wants to hang out and expects me to drive him around. I dont mind since I get to have fun as well. However, if I were him, I would be aware of the cost of gas and I would expect to make up for it to the person driving the car like paying for the gas or paying for him for the food, the beer, or the entertainment. Edited June 1, 2011 by musemaj11
TheyCallMeBruce Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 I believe in gender equality. Don't you? In pretty much every other circumstance, yes. It's weird. Growing up, my parents always taught me to be a gentleman. Open doors, pay for dinner, things like that. But with my sister, it was all about her being independent and stuff. Anyway, so while I definitely believe in gender equality, I just don't like letting women pay when they're out with me. That's a me-specific thing. I don't think other guys who let girls pay or who go dutch are bad people, I just hate doing it.
Author SingVoice Posted June 1, 2011 Author Posted June 1, 2011 Serious question. Why a lot of women are so repulsed by idea of having to pay for their own meal or movie ticket? First date I agree that the asker should expect to pay for the 'guest'. But after that its rude to expect another person to pay for you. I mean how would you feel if the table were turned? How many women would like men to expect you to pay for them on dates? I bet none because its just rude. You sound like a considerate person. I have a friend who always wants to hang out and expects me to drive him around. I dont mind since I get to have fun as well. However, if I were him, I would be aware of the cost of gas and I would expect to make up for it to the person driving the car like paying for the gas or paying for him for the food, the beer, or the entertainment. For the record...I am not repulsed. Like I have said over and over...I paid for a couple drinks on our first date and offered the other times. But he said no. I am not bothered at all by having to split the bill. But I was CONFUSED when he asked me to. I hate that this thread has become about money. I know people are really passionate about the whole gender equality thing. I really just wanted to know what he was thinking or if it meant that he was losing interest or whatever. But like I said...he invited me out last night...(So 2 dates back to back...which is totally new for us)...and he paid for the pitcher. I think that at some point I want to discuss this with him....only because I have to financially plan too. And lets say for example he suggests a nice dinner....I need to know ahead of time if I am going to pay or he is...because it could affect my spending for the week. That doesn't seem irrational, right?
musemaj11 Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 For the record...I am not repulsed. Like I have said over and over...I paid for a couple drinks on our first date and offered the other times. But he said no. I am not bothered at all by having to split the bill. But I was CONFUSED when he asked me to. I hate that this thread has become about money. I know people are really passionate about the whole gender equality thing. I really just wanted to know what he was thinking or if it meant that he was losing interest or whatever. But like I said...he invited me out last night...(So 2 dates back to back...which is totally new for us)...and he paid for the pitcher. I think that at some point I want to discuss this with him....only because I have to financially plan too. And lets say for example he suggests a nice dinner....I need to know ahead of time if I am going to pay or he is...because it could affect my spending for the week. That doesn't seem irrational, right? It sounds like you guys are not yet comfortable with each other. For me usually after 3 dates, I already feel comfortable with the other person to talk about anything. I guess for some people the comfort level forms longer.
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