TheLawmaker Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I think my main problem is that I'm surrounded by conventional girls. You know, girls that fit into little boxes. The problem is, I don't fit into a little box. I am a freelance writer, who is working on two novels. I am a musician, who records studio albums from home. I am an artist, who takes pictures with my digital camera and edits them in photoshop. I am a video game addict, who enjoys gaming. I am an avid reader. I have a love of odd horror and sci fi movies. I have long hair, glasses, and am of an muscular physique. With all of this, I don't quite fit the "cool jock" stereotype that 99% of women go after. I am also overweight a bit, and love my fast food. And, of course, I'm a virgin with very limited dating and relationship experience. I am comfortable in this, and would love to find a girl who was comfortable with it. We could kick back, play a video game, discuss Stephen King, or check out the latest horror flick. But where do I find a nerdy girl? I am at a loss. All the nerdy girls I know are already in relationships! Are all the good girls taken?
Author TheLawmaker Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 Online. Duh! Yeah. But where? I had an internet fling with a nerdy girl a couple of years ago, that lasted 3 months. We never took it offline. I want to actually meet these girls in person, not just online. Cyber sex is not of interest to me.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Don't those computer games have chat rooms? Video game forums? If you're really so creative, then get creative.
Cloud Logic Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Yeah. But where? I had an internet fling with a nerdy girl a couple of years ago, that lasted 3 months. We never took it offline. I want to actually meet these girls in person, not just online. Cyber sex is not of interest to me. I think Ruby was referring to a dating website.. not a forum or whatnot. Suggesting the use of dating websites to find someone like you to meet IN PERSON, eventually. Anyways, go out and do the activities you like with groups of people that share your interest. You like photography? Join a photography club. Books? Book club or sit around Starbucks with a stack of books, hah! Video games? Go to an expo or something like PAX. I can't say you will find someone at these clubs, but you will have a better chance at finding someone along your criteria, I think. You can find someone practically anywhere if you just talk to the people around you.
somedude81 Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 There are tons on college campuses. I meet them in Japanese classes, Japan club and anime club. Also try anime and comic conventions. I just spent the day with one who I'm absolutely crazy for. If only I could get her to let me be more than her friend
Author TheLawmaker Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 I think Ruby was referring to a dating website.. not a forum or whatnot. Suggesting the use of dating websites to find someone like you to meet IN PERSON, eventually. Anyways, go out and do the activities you like with groups of people that share your interest. You like photography? Join a photography club. Books? Book club or sit around Starbucks with a stack of books, hah! Video games? Go to an expo or something like PAX. I can't say you will find someone at these clubs, but you will have a better chance at finding someone along your criteria, I think. You can find someone practically anywhere if you just talk to the people around you. Good advice!
Dust Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 There are tons on college campuses. I meet them in Japanese classes, Japan club and anime club. Also try anime and comic conventions. I just spent the day with one who I'm absolutely crazy for. If only I could get her to let me be more than her friend Did you make any physical moves while spending the entire day with this girl? You find nerdy girls when doing the nerdy things you like. Go to a sci-fi convention or a book signing for one of the geeky authors you love and there will be women there.
Author TheLawmaker Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 ^ Ah, I beg to differ. There are plenty of "nerd girls" out there.
Dust Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Nerdy girls are a fantasy nerds concocted to make their romantic lives not utterly hopeless. I never met a female who was the equivalent of a nerd. I have come to the theory nerdiness is a sex linked genetic disorder afflicting males alone. At this time there is no gene therapy. My dating solution for nerdiness is white hot nerd rage. Use it everywhere on everyone liberally. You will start to get a reputation of being psychotic. Women will then be falling all over themselves for you. You'll have your pick of the litter. After awhile you won't care what their hobbies are. Being hip deep in enough of them you come to a revelation. They all look about the same undressed. They all taste about the same. They all smell about the same. They all think the same. No one is different. Slight variations of the same lampshade for the same lamp. Girls who like video games, comics, sci-fi and other such “nerdy” things do exist. My girlfriend spends way more money on video games then I do for example. although I'm better at playing them!
OliveOyl Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 My daughter totally fits the nerdy girl role. However she's about ten years too young. She's an avid gamer (games like Bioshock or Portal), had a huge phase where she was into all things anime and manga, is an artist, and a very independent thinker. Oh, and she wears glasses. I'm so curious to see what kind of guys she starts meeting when she actually does start dating.
Dust Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 She'll date the same guys other girls of her beauty date. A girl's personality and interests don't figure much into the dating equation unlike for a guy. Yes and no. Her beauty will have a lot to do with who she dates, but her interest will play a role though to a much lesser extent then a guys interest and career path effect his dating abilities.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I have a nerd girl acquaintance who struggled to meet someone for a long time, but then she met a guy in the chat section of one of the computer games she plays. They are really cute together and have lasted a long time.
oaks Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I think my main problem is that I'm surrounded by conventional girls. You know, girls that fit into little boxes. Do the boxes have air holes?
irc333 Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Girls who like video games, comics, sci-fi and other such “nerdy” things do exist. My girlfriend spends way more money on video games then I do for example. although I'm better at playing them! Yes, they DO exist, go to a San Diego Comic Con, and there's plenty....yes, even ATTRACTIVE ones that actually smell GOOD and have good hygeine. lol Yes, that is suprising. Sometimes you'll see them at comic shops or what not, but I've they'd always have their friggin BOYFRIEND with them. (yes, they seem to be always taken.) This one woman at a comic shop had this cool nerdy shirt on, and I asked her where she got her shirt. She had a guy with her, didn't know if it was her Sig. Other or not. She turns around and asks that I pull down the top of her shirt to take a look...I'm kind of taken aback that a person would do this and I don't know them. And I looked down the inside of her shirt (the back) and saw what was there, read it. And that was that. She kind of talked about men as if she was unattached. Anyhow, the guy that came with her, she started to call her honey, and he started doing a little touchy feely/ PDA. I was like "Dammit!" lol Personally, I don't think an UN-attached woman would go to venues (other than conventions) that have a good majority of men in them. There was this one unattached woman that goes to chat with the stafff of the shop, she has been known to game, but will never join us. I don't think one unattached woman will join a male dominated location...even if she enjoys the hobby, just somethign I've noticed. If they do come, it's with a boyfriend.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I think my main problem is that I'm surrounded by conventional girls. You know, girls that fit into little boxes. The problem is, I don't fit into a little box. I am a freelance writer, who is working on two novels. I am a musician, who records studio albums from home. I am an artist, who takes pictures with my digital camera and edits them in photoshop. I am a video game addict, who enjoys gaming. I am an avid reader. I have a love of odd horror and sci fi movies. I have long hair, glasses, and am of an muscular physique. With all of this, I don't quite fit the "cool jock" stereotype that 99% of women go after. I am also overweight a bit, and love my fast food. And, of course, I'm a virgin with very limited dating and relationship experience. I am comfortable in this, and would love to find a girl who was comfortable with it. We could kick back, play a video game, discuss Stephen King, or check out the latest horror flick. But where do I find a nerdy girl? I am at a loss. All the nerdy girls I know are already in relationships! Are all the good girls taken? FYI: even nerdy girls don't like nerdy guys. Cut that hippie-ish hair, get in shape, sell that Playstation (there is very little that is attractive about a man who is literally addicted to video games) and get a job that pays money. Doing the above will not only help you with women but with life in general.
Sarabina Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I am a nerdy girl I love to read - I love sci-fi, fantasy and horror and am very bookish. But in my experience nerdy guys always go for the typical girly girl. No nerdy guy has ever been interested in me - I always seem to attract the jocks (even though I have zero interest in them) I would love to meet a nerdy guy who likes nerdy girls but all the nerdy guys I know are busy chasing after the "cheerleader" types - it's quite depressing
Queen Zenobia Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 How are we defining "nerd", is it merely someone who is into video games/anime that kind of stuff? I was always under the impression that "nerds" were intellectual and it was geeks that were the gamer type. Which one are you looking for OP? Or are either one okay?
Sarabina Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 PS. all the hate that is directed towards nerdy girls on this thread is very telling. Men (whether they be nerdy or not) do NOT like nerdy girls. PPS. I am not fat, unattractive and nor do I stink
Mimolicious Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I think my main problem is that I'm surrounded by conventional girls. You know, girls that fit into little boxes. The problem is, I don't fit into a little box. I am a freelance writer, who is working on two novels. I am a musician, who records studio albums from home. I am an artist, who takes pictures with my digital camera and edits them in photoshop. I am a video game addict, who enjoys gaming. I am an avid reader. I have a love of odd horror and sci fi movies. I have long hair, glasses, and am of an muscular physique. With all of this, I don't quite fit the "cool jock" stereotype that 99% of women go after. I am also overweight a bit, and love my fast food. And, of course, I'm a virgin with very limited dating and relationship experience. I am comfortable in this, and would love to find a girl who was comfortable with it. We could kick back, play a video game, discuss Stephen King, or check out the latest horror flick. But where do I find a nerdy girl? I am at a loss. All the nerdy girls I know are already in relationships! Are all the good girls taken? You know that your 'hobby' descriptions above are all also "little boxes". Just saying... Sign up for an online dating site and list your interests. Filter your searches by the "likes" comparable and you should come across people of your same interest. Good luck with that!
zengirl Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I think my main problem is that I'm surrounded by conventional girls. You know, girls that fit into little boxes. The problem is, I don't fit into a little box. I am a freelance writer, who is working on two novels. I am a musician, who records studio albums from home. I am an artist, who takes pictures with my digital camera and edits them in photoshop. I am a video game addict, who enjoys gaming. I am an avid reader. I have a love of odd horror and sci fi movies. I have long hair, glasses, and am of an muscular physique. With all of this, I don't quite fit the "cool jock" stereotype that 99% of women go after. I am also overweight a bit, and love my fast food. And, of course, I'm a virgin with very limited dating and relationship experience. I am comfortable in this, and would love to find a girl who was comfortable with it. We could kick back, play a video game, discuss Stephen King, or check out the latest horror flick. But where do I find a nerdy girl? I am at a loss. All the nerdy girls I know are already in relationships! Are all the good girls taken? I don't like Stephen King (or find him nerdy), but I'm pretty nerdy, and I meet other nerdy people at: book clubs, indie bars, pubs, game night meetups, political groups, volunteer groups, open mike nights, local events, trivia nights, etc. I guess I'm like a combination of "nerdy" + "slightly hipster (but not the douchebag poser kind)" or whatnot. I like art and music and books, but also science and video games and comics and the like. I call this "Well rounded nerdy" and most of the people I hang out with are likewise. Meaning: I don't dust off the 360 every week or play Munchkin every weekend, but they don't make me wrinkle my nose. If you want a girl who's REALLY nerdy, it's probably different. Beer bars with a local pub feel are a good place to find such gals, actually. The men to women ratio is usually a little on the high side (more men) but the girls who are there are often pretty nerdy.
somedude81 Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 She'll fish from the same pool of those who come to nibble on similar lures. Her interests play practically no role in who she's with except as a slight tendency towards some over others in her small pool. Besides all women are practically looking for the same type. It doesn't matter who they are. Just as guys hunt for the same type irrelevant of who they are. This is what I've found to be true. Just because a girl loves anime and plays Call of Duty, doesn't mean that it will lessen the poll of men that want to date her. Those things are irrelevant to a guy and may even be a boost. Basically, nerdy girls can date all types of guys. Nerdy guys can only date nerdy girls.
Author TheLawmaker Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 I guess what I need to do is just get into shape, work on improving my social skills, and try to get "other interests." It's funny, I like watching entertainment tonight and keeping up on the latest gossip as much as anyone. So maybe I'm just part nerd! And my hair stays. I look ugly without it. Every single woman that has ever been attracted to me, loses interest once the hair is gone. As has been mentioned before, social skills is what I'm lacking, most of all.
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