Asked her out for a 2nd date and she accepted but she told me something I didnt like

[PhillyDude]

I asked her out for this sat and she said she was free but gave me some unexpected feedback about our first date. She told me that I seemed NERVOUS during our first meeting which made me very disappointed in myself. I thought that I no longer gave off the nervous vibe and that was something I really didn't want to hear heading into the second date.

 

 

So now I have to make sure I come up with a outing that will have me less nervous on saturday. Damm, all those practice dates and I'm still nervous on a date with someone I like

[Ruby Slippers]

I asked her out for this sat and she said she was free but gave me some unexpected feedback about our first date. She told me that I seemed NERVOUS during our first meeting which made me very disappointed in myself. I thought that I no longer gave off the nervous vibe and that was something I really didn't want to hear heading into the second date.

That was a bad move on her part. First dates can be nerve-wracking. She shouldn't have given you critical feedback. She should have overlooked the nerves, which probably would have disappeared by date 2.

 

So now I have to make sure I come up with a outing that will have me less nervous on saturday. Damm, all those practice dates and I'm still nervous on a date with someone I like

Don't feel you have to contort yourself because of one piece of critical feedback. But for the record, I think active dates (involving walking, playing pool, moving around, etc.) provide natural outlets for nervous feelings.

[PhillyDude]

Don't take that at face value, unless you can identify specific nervous behaviors of yours. Despite how they go on about the evils of "negging," as practiced in PUA culture, women have been negging men forever, long before PUA culture came to be. "You seem nervous" could be just a basic neg.

 

OTOH, did you kiss her, get physical with her on the first date? Sometimes "you seem nervous" can be female code for "I wouldn't mind your getting more physical."

 

 

No I didn't kiss her just gave her a hug at the end. But she did make me a little uncomfortable when she would look at me and smile and not say anything. I hate when girls do that on a date

[oaks]

But she did make me a little uncomfortable when she would look at me and smile and not say anything. I hate when girls do that on a date

 

Next time she does that, surprise her by asking her what she's thinking. She won't be expecting it.

[daphne]

Most of the guys I've dated recently have been nervous. The guy I'm seeing now was probably the most nervous. I kind of liked it because it usually means the guy's not a player and likes me.

 

I would never make someone feel uncomfortable by bringing it up, unless they asked. That seems like poor etiquette on her part. But I don't know if her smiling and not saying anything is a bad thing. Unless it's a critical kind of smile, like you did something odd.

[PhillyDude]

Most of the guys I've dated recently have been nervous. The guy I'm seeing now was probably the most nervous. I kind of liked it because it usually means the guy's not a player and likes me.

 

I would never make someone feel uncomfortable by bringing it up, unless they asked. That seems like poor etiquette on her part. But I don't know if her smiling and not saying anything is a bad thing. Unless it's a critical kind of smile, like you did something odd.

 

It was a flirting type of smile but I still get nervous a little.