TheLawmaker Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Do you use Pickup? Do you workout? Do you have a good job? What exactly attracts women to guys, and makes them believe that the guy is attractive enough to be in a relationship with?
Author TheLawmaker Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 Funny how the prostitute thread is 8 or 9 pages, but none of the other guys here know how to PICK UP women. Give a brother a clue here?
rafallus Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Random tips, from my wacky experience: -Girls really like it if you find other reasons to like them than their looks. Try to deduce one of her traits from what she says. Or acknowledge if she has a cool hobby. -Girls also like it if you can figure out their emotional state and respond accordingly. It is nowhere near as hard as it sounds. -You must be touching them quite a bit, more and more as interaction progresses. Like she says sth cool, you high five her, or better yet, hug her. As you walk around together, you put your hand on her back, etc. Basically, you must see sex in them.
sanskrit Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Give a brother a clue here? Well-concealed snares and traps work for me, pits. blinds that sort of thing. However, the old box and stick with string trap is not a good one, as they often see the stick and string and over half of them won't go under the box at that point, cutting your "take" by 50% or more. Seriously, the reason for few responses is that your question is way too broad. Maybe try narrowing it some?
Feelsgoodman Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Funny how the prostitute thread is 8 or 9 pages, but none of the other guys here know how to PICK UP women. Give a brother a clue here? Get a motorcycle, lot's of tattoos and a drug habit. The rest is easy
SomewhatExperienced Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I guess I don't really TRY to get girls, in the sense that I don't zero in on one and try to get her digits. I'm usually pretty friendly and talkative and can chat about a lot of different subjects. I'm the kind of person who ends up talking to everyone. If the situation seems right I'll strike up small chat with a girl I think is cute (I never pry in to talk to her). When I do, I make eye contact and smile just to send out feelers and see if she responds to the body language. If it's clear she's not interested I let her go on her way and I'll never chase someone who's not showing interest. I'd say most of the time it ends up in small talk and that's it, but occasionally I meet someone and it's clear we connect and she knows I'm interested in her and she's interested in me and it ends up feeling natural to continue the conversation another time. I usually don't try to force these things. I just go with it and be friendly. But that's what works for me and my personality. I'm a socialite and not really aggressive by nature. I think when I'm trying to hard it's obvious and blows back in my face. I'd say I end up dating people that I get along with well, but I have very low rates of dating hot chicks that I just want to sleep with, although that's not what I'm looking for anyway.
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Ether and Duct Tape You have to look like fun.. who wants to go out with a guy if they aren't going to have fun..
kiss_andmakeup Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Guys, you misread his post. He wants to know how to really get girls. The real, true, deeply-buried, black-market secret that you only give up when provided the secret password. :rolleyes:
quietGuy13 Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Here's my take. And i don't even get any girls. But i'll just give what I THINK(from what i see in movies and stuff). So you go out and there's some girls. THen you talk to them and flirt and whatever , act confident. Then you give them your number (OR INModern days YOUR FACEBOOK or email). Then In movies they always call. But in reality Girls say they call but they lie( this is my experience) and never call back. But you wanna know what i really think?? You get girls by LUCK! Yeah.. it's all about luck. You can try as much as you want. being nice to girls talking nice and being respectful and friendly. BUT THAT DOESN"T NECESSARILY work. IT WORKS if by chance and luck, nature presents to you a girl who is nice and friendly and truthful. If that happens, then by being nice , respectful and friendly it's really easy to be friends. Cause that's what i did when i got my great friend some months ago. All i did is start talking and smiling and being myself. And it worked that time. BUT that's cause the girl was the right girl. I've been nice and friendly and respectful many other times and I just got girls who lied to me and never contacted me ever. So , as other people have said, it's all about numbers. ANd you gotta fail tons of times and sooner or later you will have a success. So far my history recently has been like this: FAIL, FAIL, Success but she left cause earthquake but she's coming back in June, FAIL, FAIL, FAIL, SUCCESS, SUCCESS but ended cause she has a BF, FAIL, FAIL , FAIL, SUCCESS but ended cause it was actually a lie, FAIL, FAIL, FAIL, SUCCEESS and she said she would keep in touch and she hasn't, SUCCESS but i didn't get contact info cause the bus came. That's my history since about January 2011.
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 The secret.. nice guys finish last.. be a bad boy.. and don't forget your secret decoder ring
Author TheLawmaker Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 Here's my take. And i don't even get any girls. But i'll just give what I THINK(from what i see in movies and stuff). So you go out and there's some girls. THen you talk to them and flirt and whatever , act confident. Then you give them your number (OR INModern days YOUR FACEBOOK or email). Then In movies they always call. But in reality Girls say they call but they lie( this is my experience) and never call back. But you wanna know what i really think?? You get girls by LUCK! Yeah.. it's all about luck. You can try as much as you want. being nice to girls talking nice and being respectful and friendly. BUT THAT DOESN"T NECESSARILY work. IT WORKS if by chance and luck, nature presents to you a girl who is nice and friendly and truthful. If that happens, then by being nice , respectful and friendly it's really easy to be friends. Cause that's what i did when i got my great friend some months ago. All i did is start talking and smiling and being myself. And it worked that time. BUT that's cause the girl was the right girl. I've been nice and friendly and respectful many other times and I just got girls who lied to me and never contacted me ever. So , as other people have said, it's all about numbers. ANd you gotta fail tons of times and sooner or later you will have a success. So far my history recently has been like this: FAIL, FAIL, Success but she left cause earthquake but she's coming back in June, FAIL, FAIL, FAIL, SUCCESS, SUCCESS but ended cause she has a BF, FAIL, FAIL , FAIL, SUCCESS but ended cause it was actually a lie, FAIL, FAIL, FAIL, SUCCEESS and she said she would keep in touch and she hasn't, SUCCESS but i didn't get contact info cause the bus came. That's my history since about January 2011. The only serious post, and that's coming from a fellow virgin. Thanks, guys! I guess what I was asking was how to attract them. Be romantic, get their attention, that is if she wants her attention to be gotten. I don't want to waste money on pickup books. First off, I am a geek/nerd, even look like it, so I wouldn't come off convincing as a "player." Secondly, I want a geeky/nerdy girl, that shares my interests, and I probably won't find her by pretending to be something I'm not. I don't want a supermodel. I just want an average looking girl, who's kind of pretty, who can share my life and interests and we can grow old together. Shouldn't be too much to ask!
Author TheLawmaker Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 Lower your standards. Ugh. I already said I would date average looking girls. I don't go for the hot girls...can't you read? I am average looking. My current crush is chubby (chubbier than I am), pretty in the face, and not a supermodel...but I find her cute as hell. However, I don't know how to talk to her, without sounding...inexperienced. What you don't get is that I'm an inexperienced male, trying to pretend I'm "normal" (and for someone with social anxiety, that is very difficult!) Lower my standards?...to what, exactly? Sloth? I don't want to date girls who are ugly, to me; I want to date someone I'm attracted to. I find most "hot girls" to be self absorbed and stuck up...therefore, I like the average looking girls. I am not aiming out of my league.
BobSacamento Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Ugh. I already said I would date average looking girls. I don't go for the hot girls...can't you read? I am average looking. My current crush is chubby (chubbier than I am), pretty in the face, and not a supermodel...but I find her cute as hell. However, I don't know how to talk to her, without sounding...inexperienced. What you don't get is that I'm an inexperienced male, trying to pretend I'm "normal" (and for someone with social anxiety, that is very difficult!) Lower my standards?...to what, exactly? Sloth? I don't want to date girls who are ugly, to me; I want to date someone I'm attracted to. I find most "hot girls" to be self absorbed and stuck up...therefore, I like the average looking girls. I am not aiming out of my league. Lower to the point where if the woman rejected you you wouldn't give a crap. Maybe you'll gain some courage from experience hot shot.
Sanman Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 I have given advice on how guys with no luck can break into dating and some of it is controversial. Check my old posts. Be funny, be popular, do not have any interest in being friends with her. Then again, I am 6' tall, well dressed with a nice sense of style, have an above average income, hit the gym regularly and have a muscular physique, and have a tattoo. So that may help as well. If all else fails, go online and date any woman that will date you. Practice makes perfect!
daphne Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 This whole post made me giggle. Esp referring him to sosuave
heartshaped Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 You started out wrong, OP. Don't ask men how to get women. What do [most] men know about women? Nothing. [i'm only halfway kidding here.] I am average looking. My current crush is chubby (chubbier than I am), pretty in the face, and not a supermodel...but I find her cute as hell. However, I don't know how to talk to her, without sounding...inexperienced. What you don't get is that I'm an inexperienced male, trying to pretend I'm "normal" (and for someone with social anxiety, that is very difficult! This might be a foreign concept, but really all you have to do is talk to her. Corny pickup lines are not appreciated nor is trying to pretend to be someone you aren't. Most women can see right through that crap and find it terribly unattractive. You say you have a crush on this girl, what do you know about her? Her hobbies, her likes, dislikes, etc? The best approach of all is just to ask her out on a date or ask for her phone number. Too much conversation without doing either leaves women wondering what it is you exactly want. You don't want to be friend zoned. It's like the black death..only worse.
Sabali Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 This might be a foreign concept, but really all you have to do is talk to her. Corny pickup lines are not appreciated nor is trying to pretend to be someone you aren't. Most women can see right through that crap and find it terribly unattractive. You say you have a crush on this girl, what do you know about her? Her hobbies, her likes, dislikes, etc? The best approach of all is just to ask her out on a date or ask for her phone number. Too much conversation without doing either leaves women wondering what it is you exactly want. You don't want to be friend zoned. It's like the black death..only worse. ^This. .....
dispatch3d Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Get over your social anxiety. Stop dressing like a huge nerd. 1 2 1 2 1 2, just like in boxing haha. Your question is too broad though. I would just go with the box stick and string method, could work.
oaks Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 However, I don't know how to talk to her, without sounding...inexperienced. What you don't get is that I'm an inexperienced male, trying to pretend I'm "normal" (and for someone with social anxiety, that is very difficult!) You probably don't remember learning to walk, but I bet you tried it a lot and fell over a lot. Talk to her. You'll screw it up. Move on. Repeat. Eventually you'll screw up less. There's not a short-cut to that but you can "practice" by talking to all women you see, even if you don't fancy them. Don't start the conversation with "I bet you look good naked" until you're more confident.
Rose T Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Get your **** together. That's about it, really. Think about what you want to do with your life, have a career goal, believe in your passions. Try and take care of money. Women are attracted to guys who have a purpose and look like they could take care of them in the future. It's really not much more complicated than that. When you do have your **** together, go and talk to some girls. Tell them what you like and ask them about what makes them tick. Be positive. Don't take yourself too seriously. Be kind.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 Here's my take. And i don't even get any girls. But i'll just give what I THINK(from what i see in movies and stuff). This is why I love this forum
milkmaterial Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 (edited) being affectionate! it also makes ur relationship almost 90 percent cheat proof. just ask dr. love (dr. love gives advice for men i think) http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/ also dont allow her to treat you like crap, be sweet when she is nice, be ruthless when she is being mean. anyway there is so much, and money or job or looks has nothing to do with it. i once loved a man because i saw how much he struggled to want to be with me, and he spent a lot of time spending time with me..talking to me, being interested genuinely in what i had to say. sadly we didnt work out but i am in a better place now..granted..when i do think back, he did everything right. well, almost everything. i would've given him everything. Edited June 1, 2011 by milkmaterial
Dust Posted June 1, 2011 Posted June 1, 2011 Do you use Pickup? Do you workout? Do you have a good job? What exactly attracts women to guys, and makes them believe that the guy is attractive enough to be in a relationship with? Being healthy and having a job you like are things you should do regardless of getting women. Yes they help though, but that shouldn’t be your only reason. The secret to getting women is there is no secret. Don’t over think it. Just go out there and be yourself. Ask girls you like out and say and do the things you want to do. Stop letting fear of failure and rejection stop you. It’s all in your head. Really if you regularly tried that means ever day you were flirting with and asking out the girls you liked, and then on dates you made moves… you would have a girl really soon. You don’t try is my guess do to made up fear of seeming like a creep or what ever girls say these days. Lower your standards. A mans standards will lower naturally. Some guys look at trolls and see the next Megan Fox. Prison can turn a man gay. The thing is you should only go after women you find 100% attractive. That doesn’t mean you care what your friends will think. It means you go after girls that really excite you. I also find that purposely going after women because you think they aren’t that attractive there for they will say yes back fires. The energy you get from going after a girl you are genuinely into helps you out. Horny power! Any ways I find pretty girls are more fun. You started out wrong, OP. Don't ask men how to get women. What do [most] men know about women? Nothing. [i'm only halfway kidding here.] He really shouldn’t take advice from any one but himself. Learning this kind of thing really takes going out there and doing it. As a guy I can relate to his feelings because I’ve gone through some of them myself and can talk more candidly with other guys about our frustrations with love and life. A girl doesn’t know what its like to be a guy going after a girl. All in all like I first said this is the kind of thing he has to learn for himself by doing. The thing is I doubt he is out there trying. He is in his head too much and posting on this msg board. I say use this msg board for accountability and come back and post about how you flirted with some girl and asked her out. Go out there and do! This might be a foreign concept, but really all you have to do is talk to her. Corny pickup lines are not appreciated nor is trying to pretend to be someone you aren't. Most women can see right through that crap and find it terribly unattractive. You say you have a crush on this girl, what do you know about her? Her hobbies, her likes, dislikes, etc? The best approach of all is just to ask her out on a date or ask for her phone number. Too much conversation without doing either leaves women wondering what it is you exactly want. You don't want to be friend zoned. It's like the black death..only worse. Good advice. Be yourself. The version of yourself that isn’t afraid to just go up and talk to (flirt) and ask out (date) the girls you like. You’ll see these girls in every day life. If you just go for it instead of making up excuses like “she’s to busy, or people are around” You’ll get dates. Then on the dates just keep being yourself, don’t play castrated guy afraid to offend, when you feel the moment is right for a kiss go for it… at least go for it when you say goodbye for the night. (try to schedule another date before that date is over if you like her) Also don’t think of it as you just trying to impress her. Think of it as having fun regardless of whether she becomes your girlfriend/wife then bares your children. Just enjoy seeing her sit close to you. Touch her arm when you make her laugh. Have fun. Don’t just stress. It’s a journey not a destination. There is no such thing as the friendzone by the way. If you are upfront and go for what you want she will most likely out right reject you. If she really tries to make you her gal pal even though you hold her hand and regularly go in for the kiss then just dump her. Be yourself, the confident version and it will all work out. Getting rejected by a girl doesn’t even hurt unless you let it. Think of it as a learning experience. They can never truly reject you anyways.
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