fallensaint Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 So last Saturday night I drove out of town to see a very close old friend of mine. We've had a connection and a thing for each other for about 8 years now, but the timing was just never right, one of us was always with someone. Anyways, I went down there and we went out with some of her friends and her bf and had a great time. Later in the night we got back to her place, with the original plan being me crashing on her couch and her going to bed. What actually happened was that we both passed out on the couch together. I woke up later and, upon seeing that she was asleep, took the cowards approach and finally said out loud that I was in love with her. The next morning I woke up with her in my arms and we immediately went into an intense and passionate makeout session. I later found out that she heard what I had said, and we're becoming closer than ever before. I'm so incredibly conflicted about this that I don't even know where to begin. On the one hand, the last couple of years I have been on a major path of self discovery and have tried to start eliminating the things in my life that may have a negative karmic affect on my life, and this is one of the biggest setbacks I can possibly imagine. On the other hand I've loved this girl for a lot of years now, and I know that she is not happy with her current bf. I have never done anything like this before, always having had a strict policy against cheating or being party to it, and I'm completely lost in uncharted territory. I'm not looking for justifications or anyone to tell me that this is OK, just needed somewhere to vent my thoughts.
whichwayisup Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 If she isn't happy with her current boyfriend, then back off and let her end that relationship. If she wants you, then she will break up with him and come to you. Anything other than that, makes you the OM and nothing else. How long have they been a couple? Don't have sex with her again. If you do, since you have a conscious and feel karma will get you, even more so is your reason to stay away from her, give her time and space until she ends it with her bf. Just keep in mind, now that she has cheated on her bf, she is capable of cheating and lying about it.. Unless she finds the courage and balls to come clean with him, be honest and tell him that she slept with you and has feelings for you.. Though sadly, I doubt very much she'll do that. Not too many actually come clean and take the fallout head on.
Emme Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 So vent... What's your plan of action? Will you pursue her? Is she on the list of things that will hinder your personal growth? Spill... Also how old are you?
Author fallensaint Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 Well, just to clarify, we did not have sex. Nothing went beyond exactly what I stated in the thread. I am 25, as is she, to answer that question. As for plan of action, yes, I plan to pursue this in the aspect of continuing to my feelings for her, but there will not be any actual romantic or physical relationship unless and until she and her current bf break up.
Author fallensaint Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 Oh, forgot I had missed a reply. She and her bf have been together once before for about 1 year, broke up for about a year, and have been back together for about 4 months.
Emme Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Well you seem to have a plan. I wish you the best and hope you get the woman of your dreams. I hope she's strong enough to end it with her boyfriend and moves forward with you. Stand by what you say here now. Don't allow her to sway back and forth using you both. Best wishes.
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