tikster Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Hi all! I am new to this portion of the site and would like to get some insight. I started dating this wonderful guy in April. We were together for a month and had no problems. However, on our second date he told me that a friend of his in Hawaii told him about a job over there (we are in california now) & he should apply. The guy would let him live at his place rent free & who wouldn't want to live in Hawaii,right? At the time it seemed as if he was weighing the pros and cons and it looked like moving was a hassle and he has all his family here, plus we were just starting out, but I won't count me So towards the end of the month I started feeling uneasy about this Hawaii thing because it seemed as if it was still up in the air. We sat it out and talked and he told me about his reservations for LDR and didn't want to risk hurting me if he left and we had gotten more attached to eachother. so after a looong period of back and forth, we decided to let go, reluctantly. It's been a week since and I can't stop thinking about him and we haven't talked. It's like he's disappeared in order to move on. But I want him. This situation is so up in the air because he doesn't even know if he'll get the job and if he doesn't i'll feel like so much time was wasted. He told me, if in a few months and he's still here he can't say he wouldnt try to get me back. I am so sad should i just leave it alone?
Idalis Posted May 31, 2011 Posted May 31, 2011 This is a difficult situation. I know it might seem easy to seek him out, but, you would end up getting hurt if he decides to move. I know its easy to get attached to someone, but you're better off moving on for now, if he ends up not moving and contacting you then you can always pick up where you left off. Sorry, it must be hard
Author tikster Posted June 3, 2011 Author Posted June 3, 2011 Thank you for your response and I completely understand. I didn't put up a fight and accepted that despite him saying he didn't want to lose me, he also knew he couldn't be with me right now. Prior to posting here I was on a forum else where and some people were giving me crap about him obviously not being interested in me, he didn't contact me since we broke up and I need to respect his decision and move on as if I am trying to hold onto him, which I am not. It only mad me more upset. So I appreciate the sincerity and rationality in your response.
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