yolatanga Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I don't get it. He doesn't want me to go to where he hangs out which I don't yet he is now showing up more and more where I hang. Eventually he leaves but why show up in the first place. He talks to my friends and it uncomfortable for all. Everyone watches to see what is going to happen. He tells my girlfriend I don't like him. Well duh! He was verbally abusive and didn't have the guts to end our relationship. He hired a lawyer to do the dirty work. We've not had one conversation. Just accusations and rudeness. It's 7 mos later and I'm never going to get over him if he doesn't go away like he used to. Why is he showing up? If he doesn't care about me anymore. He doesn't say a word to me. He'll stand right next to me and say nothing. What is the point? Why is he showing up? I'm so frustrated.
9Lives Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 He wants to talk to you to SEE what is on your mind. I wouldnt tell him tho. He also wants to say something to you and you are acting like he is not phasing you and it is making him crazy. You are bothering him cause you are being so cool and calm. he wants a reaction.
Author yolatanga Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 He could pick up the phone if he wants to talk. He refuses to do it. WtH? I think he wants to hurt me is all. He shows up alone and thankfully leaves alone. I couldn't handle him picking up someone in front of me.
9Lives Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Your silence is killing him and he has too much pride and ego to just simply call so he is trying to provoke you to make the first move. You said he is abuse right?
Freesia120 Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Oh no that's not right!!! He thinks he can still control you even though he doesn't talk to you which he is managing to do because he senses you are not comfortable in his presence. looks like you need to find other places to hang out..coming and going alone would mean he's trying to let you know he's still available.
sinnister Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Oh no that's not right!!! He thinks he can still control you even though he doesn't talk to you which he is managing to do because he senses you are not comfortable in his presence. looks like you need to find other places to hang out..coming and going alone would mean he's trying to let you know he's still available. He knows it'll make u uncomfortable, so it's a way to GET RIGHT IN YOUR FACE...then leave and make you his "prison b--ch". It's quite abusive...downright sick..esp since he knows you won't stoop that low. Something in him needs to tell the world that he's over you and you're not..which should be saying the exact opposite if you actually have friends there. Just don't let it pull you directly into the black hole...it's clearly HIS shame (or shamelessness) up for display. If he makes you a shut-in to avoid it..he gets all your your friends n wins. Let him continue to be the loser...I'm sure people say so when he's not around.
Author yolatanga Posted May 31, 2011 Author Posted May 31, 2011 I should go to where he eats dinner every night this evening just to piss him off. He's an azz. Someone told me he is still hurt. Hurt about what? All I know is he violently ended our relationship and still hasn't talked to me about it. He gave me money for 6 mos later and I let him know that money would never repair the psychological demage he caused. I'm in therapy while he is not. His thereapy his running off to florida and/or drinking every night.
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