nothappyjan Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I am so good at multidating until i meet a guy i like then i become so caught up in him that i lose enthusiasm for the other guys and it then causes the problem im trying to avoid which is getting hurt if nothing eventuates with the guy i like. I am so wise until i like a guy, i like it sooo much better when im not into a guy, much safer. Does anyone else feel the same?
thatdog Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Sorry this makes no sense to me. If you don't like them why are you dating the other guys in the first place?
kiss_andmakeup Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I don't multi-date for this reason. I'm not good at hurting people's feelings, and the one time I tried to multi-date, I inevitably ended up having to do just that.
Ginger Beer Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I am so good at multidating until i meet a guy i like then i become so caught up in him that i lose enthusiasm for the other guys and it then causes the problem im trying to avoid which is getting hurt if nothing eventuates with the guy i like. I am so wise until i like a guy, i like it sooo much better when im not into a guy, much safer. Does anyone else feel the same? What about the other guys you suddenly lose interest in? You not care how they feel?
kiss_andmakeup Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 What about the other guys you suddenly lose interest in? You not care how they feel? I agree, I think I kind of misread the OP (it wasn't all that clear).
Author nothappyjan Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 The most i've dated any of the guys- including the one i like is 2 dates- so its not like we are planning a wedding. Both of us are always still on the dating sites so i assume they are doing the same. Every dating site advises to keep seeing other people until you are both on the same page as otherwise i like a guy and he disappears on me and it hurts which is why i'm trying to keep myself distracted by still talking to other guys..
Author nothappyjan Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 And so far i haven't been the one to lose interest in any of the guys. I'm always the one who ends up not hearing from them or we just don't feel a connection so i've never had to turn a guy down unless it was one first date where i didnt feel any potential so i will just let them know. I'm hardly breaking hearts here.
heartshaped Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 You can't stop heartbreak. If you really want to find someone, you have to take that risk. I do recommend though trying not to get so attached after just a few dates. Try to remain objective and remember that you don't know an awful lot about the person and you aren't even committed to them yet.
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