wilsonx Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 My GF of over a year and a half just pretty much told me she has given up on our relationship after I caught her out drinking with another guy. She knew she was busted and broke up with me. The problem is instead of communicating (THE WHOLE PROBLEM OF THE RELATIONSHIP), we could have talked out a clean break because it was bad but she hurt me because she got caught. The relationship was starting to be bad but I am hurting really bad. I put her first and my life on hold for the past 5 months so she could finish school. I can tell you everything that was wrong with the relationship but it still hurts really bad for both of us. The problem is we moved in together and she has NO WHERE to go. I mean no where, and the apartment is mine and I am not leaving, she broke up with me. Tonight she went and slept in a friends vacant house and it will be the only night possible to do it. As that lease ends on the 31st I Keep telling her to get on craigslist or roommates.com and get a new place and gtfo so I can heal but she is so hurt from breaking up with me that shes depressed too. How do I start NC with a live in GF that wont put finding a new place first on the list. I do not want to see her, I want to heal, I am so angry. The worst part is she left her dog here tonight after I begged for her to take him because I did not want to think of her anymore. How do I cope with this, she will sleep on the couch but I DO NOT WANT TO SEE HER... I am a trainwreck going back and forth talking to her and its not fair.
Exit Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 (edited) Is it literally YOUR place? Does she have any ownership of it? Is her name on the lease? If not, she doesn't have a choice, get her out. It will not be healthy for either of you, she needs to realize it'll be better for her too. If she wants to claim that she is too depressed to look then start finding listings for her and print them out and tell her to start finding a new place. If she is depressed from the breakup (as you are) she won't start feeling better while she's sleeping on your couch. She's gotta have some friends or family, or if not, she will just have to try finding a random roomate. I feel your pain, I'm sitting alone in the apartment where I was supposed to be starting my life with my ex, and about to try to go to sleep in the lonely empty bedroom. Edited May 30, 2011 by Exit
Author wilsonx Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 Her name is on the lease, so it sucks. I can afford it solo but she cant so Im taking ownership of it. I told her to goto craigslist and roommates.com but she has become lazy. She really doesnt have good friends around here, I told her to stay with the "FRIEND" she was at the bar with but she has standards or some bull****. She broke up with me because I was difficult to deal with. My only argument with her was about this FRIEND that texts her ALL THE TIME... calls her hot, etc etc and she swore up and down that hes just a friend that she works with and she would never hang out with him and when I caught her lying to me, it was over. But you know what, Im glad the relationship is over now honestly, I JUST WANT TO HEAL AND NC her forever.
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