numbandnumber Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 My wife of 20 years has told me that she and my two young teens are fed up woith the tension I cause. She has said that my expectations are too high and I have not been fair. She has said while she had never hoped it would come to this, the only way to salvage relationships with the kids may be for me to move out. I totally own my role and am seeing a therapist to help me become more in touch with my feelings and behaviors. I have asked my wife to consider letting me prove that my work on myself will make out home happier. I am hoping deeply she will. I want to do this and know I have to sustain it for some time NOT making mistakes. I hope I can demonstrate my commitment. Moreover, I hope my family will come to see this is real. I am totally committed to doing this but want to be successful but don't want to smother them too. Anyone been here? Help and advice SO welcome!
tojaz Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 My wife of 20 years has told me that she and my two young teens are fed up woith the tension I cause. She has said that my expectations are too high and I have not been fair. She has said while she had never hoped it would come to this, the only way to salvage relationships with the kids may be for me to move out. I totally own my role and am seeing a therapist to help me become more in touch with my feelings and behaviors. I have asked my wife to consider letting me prove that my work on myself will make out home happier. I am hoping deeply she will. I want to do this and know I have to sustain it for some time NOT making mistakes. I hope I can demonstrate my commitment. Moreover, I hope my family will come to see this is real. I am totally committed to doing this but want to be successful but don't want to smother them too. Anyone been here? Help and advice SO welcome! What was your role? What have you learned? How commited is she (in your perception) to rebuilding? TOJAZ
Eddie Edirol Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Yeah, if your wife isnt in love with you anymore, which is totally possible, then its false hope. But since this is a family thing, it doesnt sound like the typical break line. But for your wife and family to be attracted to you again as a dad and husband, you really have to come back a different person. Everything they complain about has to dissappear. Use the time wisely.
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