rayray8800 Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I've spent about a month getting to know a woman in my community. She's married and we spend a lot of time together. Recently her hugs have been more intimate, with a full body hug when we met. She texts me a lot and confesses that she feels very comfortable being with me, thinks I'm funny. She invites me to lunch quite a bit and always texts me afterward how much she enjoyed herself. All of her body language suggests lots of flirtation. I am very attracted to her. In all of our conversations she speaks little about her husband unless I ask, in which case she says a few words and then moves onto another conversation. I feel our attraction is very mutual. On one hand, I'm very happy to have a new close friend. Lord knows having a close friend is wonderful. On the other hand, I would love to hold her in my arms, kiss her, and experience an even closer side to her. We're both in our mid 30s. She has no kids. I'm not going to make any moves on her unless she kisses or touches me first. If she is into me, I'll wait for a very clear signal. Otherwise, I'll just be happy to have a beautiful and attractive friend like her.
whichwayisup Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 .....But she's married..Off limits! So what if she has no kids! She has a husband! Why are you letting yourself fall for a woman who is married? You're setting yourself up for failure, for a big hurt and also, for a lot of drama and heartache. Do some reading in this section to understand what it's like to be the other person (in your case, OM, other man), then go read in the infidelity section and read about the pain affairs in a marriage, to the betrayed spouse. Do you really want to be that guy who knowingly gets involved with a married woman? Do you believe that one day she will divorce her husband and be with you? Or something you wish for in the future? Don't do it. Keep the lines drawn and don't tell her how you feel, let alone kiss her or let her kiss you! Don't be the OM, you'll regret it one day.
Breezy Trousers Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 Is there a question? Or are you just sharing? RayRay, I noticed in 2009 you said you were 40 and now, two years later, you say you're in your mid-thirties. Sounds like you enjoy fantasy. That's certainly a prerequisite for all affairs.
swimmingfreely Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I've spent about a month getting to know a woman in my community. She's married and we spend a lot of time together. Recently her hugs have been more intimate, with a full body hug when we met. She texts me a lot and confesses that she feels very comfortable being with me, thinks I'm funny. She invites me to lunch quite a bit and always texts me afterward how much she enjoyed herself. All of her body language suggests lots of flirtation. I am very attracted to her. In all of our conversations she speaks little about her husband unless I ask, in which case she says a few words and then moves onto another conversation. I feel our attraction is very mutual. On one hand, I'm very happy to have a new close friend. Lord knows having a close friend is wonderful. On the other hand, I would love to hold her in my arms, kiss her, and experience an even closer side to her. We're both in our mid 30s. She has no kids. I'm not going to make any moves on her unless she kisses or touches me first. If she is into me, I'll wait for a very clear signal. Otherwise, I'll just be happy to have a beautiful and attractive friend like her. I totally get it just know that this is how it all starts just like any other attraction really. You want a hug now and maybe a kiss and then more and more.. Just be careful, this situation can turn crazy deep..
Emme Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 I'm not going to make any moves on her unless she kisses or touches me first. If she is into me, I'll wait for a very clear signal. Otherwise, I'll just be happy to have a beautiful and attractive friend like her. Um.... um.... Your going to wait until she makes a move. If she touches you... you said she's already doing that... close body contact. She's doing it yet she hasn't kissed you. She seems to have put you in a category some women like to put men. The one they tell stories and go shopping, the one that makes me feel like I'm special and not invisible, the one who's giving her the sex her husband can't. Do you really just want to be one of her labels in life? If you do that's on you but the lonely nights will not keep you warm. When was the last time you had a girlfriend?
OldOnTheInside Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 You know that you are dealing with a troll right? Or two middle aged men that are sharing an account with 4 posts in 2 years.
alexandria35 Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 yeah, in 2009 he was forty, now he's thirty something. He's aging in reverse.
bentnotbroken Posted May 30, 2011 Posted May 30, 2011 yeah, in 2009 he was forty, now he's thirty something. He's aging in reverse. :eek:Benjamin Button....nooooo.
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